If I don't like bars , where is it ok to approach women?

[itsperfectbaby]

I am a 43 year old guy and don't have much experience with approaching women in public. I have only done it like 5 times and tried to be casual about it and the woman wouldn't talk to me or they would roll their eyes and walk away. I was thinking of being direct but i fear coming off like a creep or getting harassment charges filed against me lol. Does the direct approach actually work? I mostly like women my age or older ....and fat. I have never heard of someone successfully aproaching in these settings. I always freeze up because i don't know what to say. Is it bad to approach a woman in a non social setting like a Target store, grocery store, library , on the street , etc... any pointers you guys could give would be great.

 

[RoadKing_Rabbit]

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[itsperfectbaby]

ok thank you!!

 

[Plinco]

I am a 43 year old guy and don't have much experience with approaching women in public. I have only done it like 5 times and tried to be casual about it and the woman wouldn't talk to me or they would roll their eyes and walk away. I was thinking of being direct but i fear coming off like a creep or getting harassment charges filed against me lol. Does the direct approach actually work? I mostly like women my age or older ....and fat. I have never heard of someone successfully aproaching in these settings. I always freeze up because i don't know what to say. Is it bad to approach a woman in a non social setting like a Target store, grocery store, library , on the street , etc... any pointers you guys could give would be great.

Don't spam approach or approach too much in one place. In the day time you want to look for any place where there are a lot of people trafficking in an area. That's going to depend a lot on where you live.

 

[RoadKing_Rabbit]

Also, farmers markets or plazas/courtyards. Those are making a serious comeback in some metros. Depending on your hobbies, there's also meetups for just about everything. I know you said you don't like bars, but there are often good daytime events at some establishments that are a bar/grill. Trivia nights, pool league, sporting events, etc.

If you like animals, try visiting all of the shelters and petting some dogs, might meet a lady there? Dog parks as well. Pet stores are SUPER easy to get innocently"" flirtatious in. You're establishing rapport over animals. I'm partial to rabbits in case that wasn't obnoxiously obvious.