Do you think gaining muscle would help and what weight do you think would look good? What type of difference would it make?I hate to burst your bubble but at 160 you are still a stick
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Do you think gaining muscle would help and what weight do you think would look good? What type of difference would it make?I hate to burst your bubble but at 160 you are still a stick
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
So you do think it would have a big impact? Would it make getting them easier? Like you said about your sense of humor, were they more receptive to you when you got bigger?Funny or interesting helps but being better looking/ more jacked lowers the threshold for it. Yes it would help a lot. I was 130 at one point and when I started getting to 150-160 I started getting more attention both sexual and not. More girls would happen to talk to me in class, around me, more matches when I used pictures online. Then beyond 160 helped even more. A lot of people say that if your personality is ass and you work out you won't get any girls but those people often don't work out because working causes personality changes in you, making you more aggressive, forward in pursuing women and more laidback and stoic in terms of life in general. My sense of humor is pretty constant but I when i was a stick at 130lbs it didn't matter much. Put on 20 pounds of mixed muscle and fat, then that will make you want to put on even more once you notice all the positive feedback in your life.
I simply told him a point at which I noticed a big jump in attention from the weight he said he was at (he said he was at 125lbs), that's not where I am currently. Of course even if he works out for the next year or two he will still be relatively 'small' in relation to people like yourself but that isn't to say he won't experience a big increase in quality of life from even putting on those 20-30 pounds. Which is why I also said "... then that will make you want to put on even more once you notice all the positive feedback in your life." I don't claim and never have claimed that 160 is big marmel.I hate to burst your bubble but at 160 you are still a stick
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Hey dude, I'll be 21 in a few months so I'm fairly close to your age. I was your stats in grade 11-12 too (now I'm 5ft 7.5 and 158lbs) My advice, yes bulk up, look fit, however, you still need the mindset and balls to approach girls. The looks will help them take notice of you but if you still fail to approach these girls that are now checking you out you get thrown right back on the friend/beta ladder.Fellas, I'm 19 currently 5'7" and around 125lbs. I've been told from people before that I should gain some lean muscle and bulk up. Would it make a difference with women? Would I get more interest, create more attraction and get more attention?