Do you think gaining muscle would help and what weight do you think would look good? What type of difference would it make?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
If I bulk up will it help with women?
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
So you do think it would have a big impact? Would it make getting them easier? Like you said about your sense of humor, were they more receptive to you when you got bigger?
I simply told him a point at which I noticed a big jump in attention from the weight he said he was at (he said he was at 125lbs), that's not where I am currently. Of course even if he works out for the next year or two he will still be relatively 'small' in relation to people like yourself but that isn't to say he won't experience a big increase in quality of life from even putting on those 20-30 pounds. Which is why I also said "... then that will make you want to put on even more once you notice all the positive feedback in your life." I don't claim and never have claimed that 160 is big marmel.
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Nah, that won't work.
I'm pretty muscular and lean, didn't notice any positive effect with women. But I got massive respect from guys! Would have had plenty of sex if I was gay lol. I even had a fag trying to pick me up once, true story.
Can't say that I'm happy with that results lol. But that's a nice hobbie to have. I dropped weights, now I'm into calistenics, that's just more interesting for me.
I'm also short, 5' 8", that matters too. And a hardcore ectomorph, did not have any visible fat ever and have a small frame.
Bodybuilding for girls is a waste of time, mate.
I'm pretty muscular and lean, didn't notice any positive effect with women. But I got massive respect from guys! Would have had plenty of sex if I was gay lol. I even had a fag trying to pick me up once, true story.
Can't say that I'm happy with that results lol. But that's a nice hobbie to have. I dropped weights, now I'm into calistenics, that's just more interesting for me.
I'm also short, 5' 8", that matters too. And a hardcore ectomorph, did not have any visible fat ever and have a small frame.
Bodybuilding for girls is a waste of time, mate.
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@Tehgoobz, I'm 5'8" and 136. I've lost 14 pounds this year because of stress/anxiety/depression with school work load and a recent breakup with a sociopath. I can see the outline of my ribcage and not in the good way. It sucks. No bueno.
I bought some supplements (whey & carb powder) today to jumpstart gaining back the muscle I used to have.
There are a lot of free weight training guides out there, so find one you like and stick to it with serious consistency and dedication.
I'm following Kris Gethin's daily training program and hope to get to 160+ pounds in the next several months.
Listen, regardless of whether or not you succeed with women or game in general, do this change for yourself. Do this change because you want to feel more confident in your life goals, hobbies, strength to lift simple things, the ability to say "no" more often, structured, focused, not needing a woman for validation, confident around other dominant men. All of this because you value yourself, not just because you want to chase flippant tail.
I bought some supplements (whey & carb powder) today to jumpstart gaining back the muscle I used to have.
There are a lot of free weight training guides out there, so find one you like and stick to it with serious consistency and dedication.
I'm following Kris Gethin's daily training program and hope to get to 160+ pounds in the next several months.
Listen, regardless of whether or not you succeed with women or game in general, do this change for yourself. Do this change because you want to feel more confident in your life goals, hobbies, strength to lift simple things, the ability to say "no" more often, structured, focused, not needing a woman for validation, confident around other dominant men. All of this because you value yourself, not just because you want to chase flippant tail.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Hey dude, I'll be 21 in a few months so I'm fairly close to your age. I was your stats in grade 11-12 too (now I'm 5ft 7.5 and 158lbs) My advice, yes bulk up, look fit, however, you still need the mindset and balls to approach girls. The looks will help them take notice of you but if you still fail to approach these girls that are now checking you out you get thrown right back on the friend/beta ladder.