are they just joking? Like on facebook if they post on walls saying stuff about how they look sexy, or that they are hotties, does it mean tehy have high self esteem or they are just fooling around and still need validation?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
if girls call themselves hotties, would you limit the compliments you give them or...
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Validation. Girls that are hot generally know they are, and don't talk about it. Only really insecure hot girls say this garbage, more often that not its the 5/6/7 range type girls that try this stuff (in my experience).
I wouldn't give them that validation. I generally just ignore them, as most often I'm not trying to hook up with the girls that say this anyway.
I wouldn't give them that validation. I generally just ignore them, as most often I'm not trying to hook up with the girls that say this anyway.
what would you do if u are trying to hook up with them?DoctorLW said:Validation. Girls that are hot generally know they are, and don't talk about it. Only really insecure hot girls say this garbage, more often that not its the 5/6/7 range type girls that try this stuff (in my experience).
I wouldn't give them that validation. I generally just ignore them, as most often I'm not trying to hook up with the girls that say this anyway.
The same thing. Just ignore those comments and pretend they never said them.
If it's a girl you already hooked-up with and been hooking-up with, I might say give them some validation every now and then... but in this case, definintely ignore it.
Another thing you could do is use one of these comments as an opener for physical contact. For instance, if they say they are a hottie, maybe touch their leg and say something about their legs.
Your final option is to talk about yourself in the same kind of language. I.E. "Almost as hot as me" type deal. I wouldn't recommend this or the second option, but they are out there if you aren't comfortable ignoring those comments.
If it's a girl you already hooked-up with and been hooking-up with, I might say give them some validation every now and then... but in this case, definintely ignore it.
Another thing you could do is use one of these comments as an opener for physical contact. For instance, if they say they are a hottie, maybe touch their leg and say something about their legs.
Your final option is to talk about yourself in the same kind of language. I.E. "Almost as hot as me" type deal. I wouldn't recommend this or the second option, but they are out there if you aren't comfortable ignoring those comments.
hey bro would you do it even if u knew they were attracted to you? like continue ignoring their comments? Like she is always smiley face around me, so I am not sure whether i should validate her or ignore.DoctorLW said:The same thing. Just ignore those comments and pretend they never said them.
If it's a girl you already hooked-up with and been hooking-up with, I might say give them some validation every now and then... but in this case, definintely ignore it.
Another thing you could do is use one of these comments as an opener for physical contact. For instance, if they say they are a hottie, maybe touch their leg and say something about their legs.
Your final option is to talk about yourself in the same kind of language. I.E. "Almost as hot as me" type deal. I wouldn't recommend this or the second option, but they are out there if you aren't comfortable ignoring those comments.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Master Don Juan
I just try to limit compliments in general. I feel AFC when I compliment girls now.
I (attempt to) make them earn it. I feel like that gives the compliment more meaning.
I (attempt to) make them earn it. I feel like that gives the compliment more meaning.