"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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if girls call themselves hotties, would you limit the compliments you give them or...

nando

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are they just joking? Like on facebook if they post on walls saying stuff about how they look sexy, or that they are hotties, does it mean tehy have high self esteem or they are just fooling around and still need validation?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Validation. Girls that are hot generally know they are, and don't talk about it. Only really insecure hot girls say this garbage, more often that not its the 5/6/7 range type girls that try this stuff (in my experience).

I wouldn't give them that validation. I generally just ignore them, as most often I'm not trying to hook up with the girls that say this anyway.
 

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DoctorLW said:
Validation. Girls that are hot generally know they are, and don't talk about it. Only really insecure hot girls say this garbage, more often that not its the 5/6/7 range type girls that try this stuff (in my experience).

I wouldn't give them that validation. I generally just ignore them, as most often I'm not trying to hook up with the girls that say this anyway.
what would you do if u are trying to hook up with them?
 

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The same thing. Just ignore those comments and pretend they never said them.

If it's a girl you already hooked-up with and been hooking-up with, I might say give them some validation every now and then... but in this case, definintely ignore it.

Another thing you could do is use one of these comments as an opener for physical contact. For instance, if they say they are a hottie, maybe touch their leg and say something about their legs.

Your final option is to talk about yourself in the same kind of language. I.E. "Almost as hot as me" type deal. I wouldn't recommend this or the second option, but they are out there if you aren't comfortable ignoring those comments.
 

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DoctorLW said:
The same thing. Just ignore those comments and pretend they never said them.

If it's a girl you already hooked-up with and been hooking-up with, I might say give them some validation every now and then... but in this case, definintely ignore it.

Another thing you could do is use one of these comments as an opener for physical contact. For instance, if they say they are a hottie, maybe touch their leg and say something about their legs.

Your final option is to talk about yourself in the same kind of language. I.E. "Almost as hot as me" type deal. I wouldn't recommend this or the second option, but they are out there if you aren't comfortable ignoring those comments.
hey bro would you do it even if u knew they were attracted to you? like continue ignoring their comments? Like she is always smiley face around me, so I am not sure whether i should validate her or ignore.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I just try to limit compliments in general. I feel AFC when I compliment girls now.

I (attempt to) make them earn it. I feel like that gives the compliment more meaning.
 
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