are they just joking? Like on facebook if they post on walls saying stuff about how they look sexy, or that they are hotties, does it mean tehy have high self esteem or they are just fooling around and still need validation?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
if girls call themselves hotties, would you limit the compliments you give them or...
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Validation. Girls that are hot generally know they are, and don't talk about it. Only really insecure hot girls say this garbage, more often that not its the 5/6/7 range type girls that try this stuff (in my experience).
I wouldn't give them that validation. I generally just ignore them, as most often I'm not trying to hook up with the girls that say this anyway.
I wouldn't give them that validation. I generally just ignore them, as most often I'm not trying to hook up with the girls that say this anyway.
what would you do if u are trying to hook up with them?DoctorLW said:Validation. Girls that are hot generally know they are, and don't talk about it. Only really insecure hot girls say this garbage, more often that not its the 5/6/7 range type girls that try this stuff (in my experience).
I wouldn't give them that validation. I generally just ignore them, as most often I'm not trying to hook up with the girls that say this anyway.
The same thing. Just ignore those comments and pretend they never said them.
If it's a girl you already hooked-up with and been hooking-up with, I might say give them some validation every now and then... but in this case, definintely ignore it.
Another thing you could do is use one of these comments as an opener for physical contact. For instance, if they say they are a hottie, maybe touch their leg and say something about their legs.
Your final option is to talk about yourself in the same kind of language. I.E. "Almost as hot as me" type deal. I wouldn't recommend this or the second option, but they are out there if you aren't comfortable ignoring those comments.
If it's a girl you already hooked-up with and been hooking-up with, I might say give them some validation every now and then... but in this case, definintely ignore it.
Another thing you could do is use one of these comments as an opener for physical contact. For instance, if they say they are a hottie, maybe touch their leg and say something about their legs.
Your final option is to talk about yourself in the same kind of language. I.E. "Almost as hot as me" type deal. I wouldn't recommend this or the second option, but they are out there if you aren't comfortable ignoring those comments.
hey bro would you do it even if u knew they were attracted to you? like continue ignoring their comments? Like she is always smiley face around me, so I am not sure whether i should validate her or ignore.DoctorLW said:The same thing. Just ignore those comments and pretend they never said them.
If it's a girl you already hooked-up with and been hooking-up with, I might say give them some validation every now and then... but in this case, definintely ignore it.
Another thing you could do is use one of these comments as an opener for physical contact. For instance, if they say they are a hottie, maybe touch their leg and say something about their legs.
Your final option is to talk about yourself in the same kind of language. I.E. "Almost as hot as me" type deal. I wouldn't recommend this or the second option, but they are out there if you aren't comfortable ignoring those comments.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Master Don Juan
I just try to limit compliments in general. I feel AFC when I compliment girls now.
I (attempt to) make them earn it. I feel like that gives the compliment more meaning.
I (attempt to) make them earn it. I feel like that gives the compliment more meaning.