If a woman threw something serious at you, like "I can't have children"

[The_Reaper]

What's the best way to deal with that?

It's like she's trying to test you, but at the same time it's not something you can joke about or brush aside.

Say, you're making a joke about kids or something, and she tells you she can't have children (some physical problem), then what? It seems like an immature thing to say on her part. I've had it happen to me, with a girl I used to date.

 

[prairiedog24]

I don't see an issue. Some guys are going to consider that a big deal, and some aren't. Look at it from her perspective, girls fantasize about having their own child someday, so deep down inside, it's a big deal to her. Her saying that is just putting you on notice that she comes with a caveat, that if you want kids you'd better be ok with them not being your own. It's either that or she wants to emphasize the benefits of not needing to use birth control with her...

Assuming it's not a big deal for you and you already have rapport with her, I'd say something like "well, in that case, we're over, because I only wanted your body as a baby factory anyway... Eight kids are dead minimum" or something equally ridiculous so she knows you're kidding.

 

[Jaux]

I'd like to hear some general responses to this as well, and not just for that specific situation. How do you handle things like:

* "I'm pregnant." (if it isn't yours, and if it is)
* "I got <insert STD>"
* "I've got cancer"
etc...

I mean a lot of the time it's obvious that they're just fooling around but what do you say when it's actually true? Last time I couldn't think of anything better to say than "ok".