"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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If a woman threw something serious at you, like "I can't have children"

The_Reaper

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What's the best way to deal with that?

It's like she's trying to test you, but at the same time it's not something you can joke about or brush aside.

Say, you're making a joke about kids or something, and she tells you she can't have children (some physical problem), then what? It seems like an immature thing to say on her part. I've had it happen to me, with a girl I used to date.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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prairiedog24

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I don't see an issue. Some guys are going to consider that a big deal, and some aren't. Look at it from her perspective, girls fantasize about having their own child someday, so deep down inside, it's a big deal to her. Her saying that is just putting you on notice that she comes with a caveat, that if you want kids you'd better be ok with them not being your own. It's either that or she wants to emphasize the benefits of not needing to use birth control with her...

Assuming it's not a big deal for you and you already have rapport with her, I'd say something like "well, in that case, we're over, because I only wanted your body as a baby factory anyway... Eight kids are dead minimum" or something equally ridiculous so she knows you're kidding.
 

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I'd like to hear some general responses to this as well, and not just for that specific situation. How do you handle things like:

* "I'm pregnant." (if it isn't yours, and if it is)
* "I got <insert STD>"
* "I've got cancer"
etc...

I mean a lot of the time it's obvious that they're just fooling around but what do you say when it's actually true? Last time I couldn't think of anything better to say than "ok".
 
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