"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If a woman gives friction or hesitation, CUT HER OFF!

Bigpapa

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No way I'll ever get tricked into that kind of situation. I've seen former fwbs hook up with their friends from high schools who has been chasing her while I've been f*cking her for ages. Then she tricks herself into think she fell for him while I know good and well she still has the sex on her mind from me. So I move on, get a new hot girl, while she has to settle. And they always show me who their new bf is. Physically unattractive and have little going for them.
This just means that she did not had really any relevant options, and That’s why she settled with the guy chasing after her. Same with the guy, he did not had options

but unfortunately guys who do this will never wear the pants in the relationship, and usually it ends into a really sad dynamic for both
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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zekko

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I always think back to the Friends show when Rachel made an agreement with Ross that if she doesn't have someone after 30, they'll marry. Meanwhile, she is constantly going on dates with other men and having her party life.
As I said in another thread, IMO overcoming the friendzone works better for casual hookups than for trying to get into LTRs.
 

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I disagree. Two of the best relationships I've ever had were with girls who initially spurned me. In one case, a coworker, gave me a soft No. I asked her out a few months later. She said Yes. And we had a torrid relationship. The other was a Tinder date who ghosted me after our first date. I gave her slack as she was 19. She wound up being my GF and we had a great time. There is no hard and fast rule with humans.
 
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