wow, so many good points here. Thanks. I know, ultimately, if I am getting hung up on some girl that I don't really know, then it's more of a reflection on me than anything else. I don't just need a gf, I need connections to people. And if any of you have ever experienced "being cut off from society" before, it makes it harder to actually act like a normal person and socialize.
All I know is that, I have gotten some pretty enthusiastic responses lately. So I know I'm doing something right. One girl said I was cute and an intellectual, and that was her idea of nearly a perfect man. And the other girl wrote back and gave me her myspace and told me to meet her at some bar that night (which I didn't go to of course). And then within one or two emails I will say something to completely turn them off. The problem is that, I have to say something. I can't just be completely boring. Either I will be way too nice or I will try to be funny, and my sense of humor is very negative and sarcastic, and they will probably just think I am a miserable, depressed person. Anyway whatever.
I think I need to go back to reading the articles. When I was reading the new articles for this week, it actually explained everything that I did wrong with the first girl.
http://www.sosuave.com/articles/hsm/niceguy.htm I was way too nice! Duh, it's not like I haven't been hearing that for the past six months. But somehow it's ingrained in me. That is the way that I tend to try to establish connections with people. And it's not being submissive, the way that some girls interpret it. It's just how I do things.
The article about not revealing too much about yourself and maintaining an air of mystery was good too.
http://www.sosuave.com/quick/tip155.htm Again, stuff I've heard before but need to keep remembering. Actually now that I think about it, when I ask them about stuff they're interested in it really gets them talking. And when I talk about the stuff I usually think about, and try to impress them with my "personality," it goes nowhere. This one girl all I did was ask her if she's been to any shows lately, and she started getting all excited and going on and on about it.
And please don't tell me internet dating is lame, I already know that. I'm trying to use this to develop confidence. In fact I would like to date an average looking girl because I think if I could do that then I could really start to get some momentum going.
Plaything - you said pretty much the opposite of everyone else. That's very confusing, don't do that! lol
f283000 - I like that 2 strikes rule, and I saw that thread before. That means I can email again once if I don't get a response. If it was just one strike that would seem harsh and unnatural. But yeah, the IL is probably going to be pretty low, unless I can bring it up again.
