"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
if a girl rarely texts first does that mean she's not interested
- Thread starter JPlaya
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
Keep escalating then. Touching, then kissing, then sexing. Keep going and you'll get your answer.JPlaya said:I've touched her and she didn't reject me.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
Also, just because you only text her once a week or so doesn't mean you're not being clingy. You should be spending your summer bettering yourself, and that includes focusing on OTHER women. There's not much you can do to increase her attraction via text when you won't be able to see her for (presumably) months, so keep the texting to a much less frequent minimum, and don't get sucked into the long conversations via text.
The problem is 1) you text too much, and 2) you are overly fixated on getting constant reassurance from responses. In neither case are you thinking about what the texts say, just that they exist
If you have established a pattern whereby you ALWAYS text first, then how can another person ever go first? You have made it that you are the text initiator. You have established this pattern. There is literally no reason for this girl to text first
what are you actually wanting to say in these texts? And what are you wanting to hear back? judging from your many previous posts on this subject, you aren't really even saying anything in these texts, so why are you sending them?
Look at the last 10 texts you sent her. Rate them on a scale of 1-10 in terms of interestingness. Thats how interesting they were for her to receive. Focus more on what you are saying not how often you are saying it. Because if your texts are as consistently similar as your posts on here, its got to be like groundhog day for this poor girl
But basically STOP focusing on these texts. She's not going to forget you exist without some boring text saying "how has your day been?" or "goodnight".
Now it does actually seem you have learned a bit, if you are saying you text less now than you did, but its going to take a while to break out of this pattern, and althought they now seem less frequent, dont make mistake of thinking they make you look less clingy. if you must obsess about texting, then at least focus on the CONTENT not the frequency.
Do you ever email or fb chat? I think texting in general is not a good look, other than arranging stuff. email is better if you have something actually INTERESTING to talk about
Question you must ask yourself: Are you an interesting person, is what you write something that is fun or interesting for this girl to receive? If not, why is it being sent?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.