"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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If a girl likes you, but you want to be friends

BigPoppa

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There's a girl that I can tell likes me and she is in the social circle with the new friends that I hang with. Well, my problem is is that this girl is so cool and just so fun to talk to that she is like one of my guy friends, except she is very cute also. Now I know I can escalate this into a boyfriend/girlfriend situation but when things go sour then I probably won't be able to hang out with her no more

so what are some kind of ways to keep her as my friend without leading her on? the logical answer would be to act like an afc but would that make her bored of me? or should I just try to treat her like any other guy friend (I think this is best answeR)

has anyone ever face this situation before? you like a girl but you don't want to escalate it cause she makes good life friend material?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Ace of Flames

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Tell her you're interested in some other girl, or ask her to hook you up with some of her friends. Anything that gives her the message that you aren't into her.

Or maybe try the more direct approach. "No b!tch I don't like you." Lol.
 

Mental

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BigPoppa said:
There's a girl that I can tell likes me and she is in the social circle with the new friends that I hang with. Well, my problem is is that this girl is so cool and just so fun to talk to that she is like one of my guy friends, except she is very cute also. Now I know I can escalate this into a boyfriend/girlfriend situation but when things go sour then I probably won't be able to hang out with her no more

so what are some kind of ways to keep her as my friend without leading her on? the logical answer would be to act like an afc but would that make her bored of me? or should I just try to treat her like any other guy friend (I think this is best answeR)

has anyone ever face this situation before? you like a girl but you don't want to escalate it cause she makes good life friend material?

That's the tricky part.

I suppose that ultimately it's up to you. I hate losing "friends." But once in a while, you start feeling like people are starting to take things for granted, and you have to get them out of your life. It's not pleasant; but for me, it HAS to be done from time to time. I don't enjoy it, but if I'm getting mistreated, then that needs to go.

It's the risk you take when you turn friendship into romance. It might work. It might not. It might seem like it's working for a long time, then fizzle out.
You could both end up hurting each other really badly. BUT, when it works, it can be worth it. When it's genuine, it's wonderful.

I say that if things seem good, and you think she's the right type of woman for you, then why not try it. You are a man, and so you can deal with consquences of certain risks, whether it's good or bad.

Good luck in your decision.
 

pvf94

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Mental said:
That's the tricky part.

I suppose that ultimately it's up to you. I hate losing "friends." But once in a while, you start feeling like people are starting to take things for granted, and you have to get them out of your life. It's not pleasant; but for me, it HAS to be done from time to time. I don't enjoy it, but if I'm getting mistreated, then that needs to go.

It's the risk you take when you turn friendship into romance. It might work. It might not. It might seem like it's working for a long time, then fizzle out.
You could both end up hurting each other really badly. BUT, when it works, it can be worth it. When it's genuine, it's wonderful.

I say that if things seem good, and you think she's the right type of woman for you, then why not try it. You are a man, and so you can deal with consquences of certain risks, whether it's good or bad.

Good luck in your decision.

I like the way you put that. :cool:
 

BAMBU

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Excuse my perverted mind, but if she is cute why dont u hit it a couple of times....keep it as a friendship.

if not just tell her that you see her as your lil sister, and that you cant see yourself being intimate with her cause of that, shell understand.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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BigPoppa

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i cant hit it cause i havent tried to escalate the relationship yet and I like her too much as a person to risk the chance of losing her after we break up

lets put it this way, she is exactly like one of the guys that i would hang out with except she isnt a guy and also attractive

she hasnt done any radical flirting yet but I can just tell by the way she looks at me that she wants something more than just friends

i think maybe i am putting too much thoughts into this and I focus on meeting other girls , this might be a case of oneitis who knows
 
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