Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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If a girl likes you, but you want to be friends

BigPoppa

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There's a girl that I can tell likes me and she is in the social circle with the new friends that I hang with. Well, my problem is is that this girl is so cool and just so fun to talk to that she is like one of my guy friends, except she is very cute also. Now I know I can escalate this into a boyfriend/girlfriend situation but when things go sour then I probably won't be able to hang out with her no more

so what are some kind of ways to keep her as my friend without leading her on? the logical answer would be to act like an afc but would that make her bored of me? or should I just try to treat her like any other guy friend (I think this is best answeR)

has anyone ever face this situation before? you like a girl but you don't want to escalate it cause she makes good life friend material?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Ace of Flames

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Tell her you're interested in some other girl, or ask her to hook you up with some of her friends. Anything that gives her the message that you aren't into her.

Or maybe try the more direct approach. "No b!tch I don't like you." Lol.
 

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BigPoppa said:
There's a girl that I can tell likes me and she is in the social circle with the new friends that I hang with. Well, my problem is is that this girl is so cool and just so fun to talk to that she is like one of my guy friends, except she is very cute also. Now I know I can escalate this into a boyfriend/girlfriend situation but when things go sour then I probably won't be able to hang out with her no more

so what are some kind of ways to keep her as my friend without leading her on? the logical answer would be to act like an afc but would that make her bored of me? or should I just try to treat her like any other guy friend (I think this is best answeR)

has anyone ever face this situation before? you like a girl but you don't want to escalate it cause she makes good life friend material?

That's the tricky part.

I suppose that ultimately it's up to you. I hate losing "friends." But once in a while, you start feeling like people are starting to take things for granted, and you have to get them out of your life. It's not pleasant; but for me, it HAS to be done from time to time. I don't enjoy it, but if I'm getting mistreated, then that needs to go.

It's the risk you take when you turn friendship into romance. It might work. It might not. It might seem like it's working for a long time, then fizzle out.
You could both end up hurting each other really badly. BUT, when it works, it can be worth it. When it's genuine, it's wonderful.

I say that if things seem good, and you think she's the right type of woman for you, then why not try it. You are a man, and so you can deal with consquences of certain risks, whether it's good or bad.

Good luck in your decision.
 

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Mental said:
That's the tricky part.

I suppose that ultimately it's up to you. I hate losing "friends." But once in a while, you start feeling like people are starting to take things for granted, and you have to get them out of your life. It's not pleasant; but for me, it HAS to be done from time to time. I don't enjoy it, but if I'm getting mistreated, then that needs to go.

It's the risk you take when you turn friendship into romance. It might work. It might not. It might seem like it's working for a long time, then fizzle out.
You could both end up hurting each other really badly. BUT, when it works, it can be worth it. When it's genuine, it's wonderful.

I say that if things seem good, and you think she's the right type of woman for you, then why not try it. You are a man, and so you can deal with consquences of certain risks, whether it's good or bad.

Good luck in your decision.

I like the way you put that. :cool:
 

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Excuse my perverted mind, but if she is cute why dont u hit it a couple of times....keep it as a friendship.

if not just tell her that you see her as your lil sister, and that you cant see yourself being intimate with her cause of that, shell understand.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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BigPoppa

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i cant hit it cause i havent tried to escalate the relationship yet and I like her too much as a person to risk the chance of losing her after we break up

lets put it this way, she is exactly like one of the guys that i would hang out with except she isnt a guy and also attractive

she hasnt done any radical flirting yet but I can just tell by the way she looks at me that she wants something more than just friends

i think maybe i am putting too much thoughts into this and I focus on meeting other girls , this might be a case of oneitis who knows
 
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