"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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If a girl holds prolonged eye contact several times?

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I was at the bookstore the other day and as i was getting up from my seat i noticed this very pretty girl looking at me. I was still thinking about what i just read so i really didnt expect this and normally would smile in a situation like that, but here i didnt. we just stared at each other for a few seconds and then i went and did what i was doing and didnt think much of it until it happened again, and i still didnt smile for whatever reason just kind of broke it after a few seconds. I wasnt intimidated by her or anything like that, i really dont know why i didnt smile or go introduce myself very unusual.

Kind of a weird situation since i never just look a woman in the eyes for more than a half a second without smiling. Does this indicate interest on her part? or did i blow it by not smiling and she was staring to stare? The reason i ask is because there is a high probability i will see her again as we both frequent this place and i am curious as to if i should approach her next time or if i ****ed myself by not doing so already or smiling?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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While I RARELY take advice from females, there are a FEW honest ones that tell it like it is. I have one trusted female friend that confirmed what I known about eye contact. She said, "We only look at guys we are attracted to."

If the eye contact if very quick, it could be accidental. But if a chick locks eyes with you for a couple seconds and/or does it more than once, odds are very high that she's attracted to you.

Did you blow it? For the most part yes. Girls are flakey. They can eye you up and down like a piece of meat one day and be totally unreceptive to you the next day. It is critical that you learn from this and "Strike when the iron is hot." You could have approached her and said ANYTHING really. Even hi might have worked.

You are welcome to try to talk to her next time. There is still a chance, but it's slim. Don't expect much. It's far more important to remember this going foward when you encounter other chicks look at you.
 
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