"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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If a girl gives her number to you, is she interested?

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No Leaf Clover

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I'm starting to wonder. It seems like a lot of guys here getting the number are getting flaked big time.

whats the deal?

it's gotten me nervous
 

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Numbers are wood. Its what you do before you get the number thats important. She needs to know a few things before she even thinks of going on a date with you. 1) you are SAFE and not some psycho killer (lots of Rapport) 2) Fun and not boring 3) Have things in common (rapport again).
 
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Well women love attention. Guys calling them makes them happy. So trd323 is right, it's what you did leading up to getting her number that determines if she was showing an indicator of interest or not.
 
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I've gotten girls' numbers in less than one minute time. They don't always turn into dates but that doesn't mean that there is a secret formula for determining whether or not you can actually "get" something out of it.

All a number is is an invitation. Sometimes not even that. There was SOMETHING in most encounters that lead to her giving you her number. It could be looks, your vibe, your style, your confidence, whatever. Sometimes it's purely for her own ego, to toy with you, for fun. It is possible for a girl who doesn't respect you to give you her number. It's how you handle it that determines whether or not this girl is going to feel you.

Sometimes there's nothing you can do to prevent flaking. That's not your fault though, other than not reading the dynamic better... But that's just the cost of doing business!

Either accept the fact that flaking/disrespectful/rude/annoying/etc. crap is going to happen or leave the drudgery to guys like me who have the skin thick enough to actually close.
 
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