"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
If a girl asks if she pretty
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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Women are very sensitive about their beauty, if you say no u r guaranteed to have a female who's pissed with u for life
If u want to be ****y funny...u can say 'Maybe' and throw in a ****y line
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Now, the friend WAS prettier, but I REALLY wanted to be with her and not the friend. So since she was pressing me really hard to "tell the truth" I did a very stupid thing and actually said, "Well, your friend is prettier but you're the one I want to be with." reasoning that if I assured her that I didn't worry about looks and only wanted to be with her that she shouldn't worry about looks and stuff.
We broke up not long after that. So yeah, I would say, ALWAYS tell them they're pretty, or the prettier of two or whatever they want you to compare.
And to keep it up, don't get too serious, keep joking around. But I wouldn't give much atenttion to it... then i'd continue to act as I normally would.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
If it's an HB9, I'd probably say: "Why? Trying to impress me?"
Say something witty + ****y + funny. But whatever you do, don't make it come out as arrogant or insulting. Include a bit of "sweetness" if you must. The trick is to get her wondering "He thinks I'm cute, or no wait, does he?" It creates a CHALLENGE.
If I were to go with the DJ Bible I would say 'no no she is just finishing for compliments, neg her!'. In reality this isn't true. Try and read her, is she joking? Insecure? What do you think at that time? Negs work wonders if you know how to use them properly, but they are kind of hit or miss. It's more of a new guy tactic and I think it often gets misused. You don't need them.
****y and funny will work if you are actually funny and in fun mood. It has to be congrent with yourself. You don't need it. As much as I use it, and the important part, I enjoy using it, I wouldn't alway reccomend it.
To get around all of this here's something you could try. Encourage her on her looks, but make it very clear looks don't matter to you because you have an abundance mindset. "Yeah your pretty, but so are a lot of girls, your lucky your cool *smile*". If you don't know her too well "Yeah your definately pretty, but what else do you have going for you". Or you could just build it up and keep her guessing: "Hmm... *look at her questioningly* well you have nice hair but... mmm... I think.... Yeah, your definately pretty".
That's just all off the top of my head. See what you can come up with. I think my idea fits more people and is more 'natural game' then trying to neg her or be c/f if you don't know how to. ****y/funny should have been called confident and playfull in the first place. Although you wont learn to use them unless you try it, I've worked out where it doesn't work so I can use them. It's up to you what path you want to take.