"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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gimmeyofonenumba

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A girl I was gaming. No longer am. She really liked me a ton. I broke it off before it got too serious. Anyways. Her friends were like polar opposite of me. Real country. Loved redneck guys, muddin,etc. One of them would be blatantly disrespectful and a few others would be cold. My friend's girlfriends typically really like me. Only redneck thing about me is I like to fish. Anyways...I was scoping her fb out of boredom and see alota her friends are like in love with her new boyfriend. posting comments on his pics,etc because he is a redneck. Kinda confirms to me that we werent a good match. Kinda aggravating at the same time I'll admit. However. I'm curious as to how to deal with this in the future? If your gaming one of the hotter chicks in her social circle and her friends cant be jealous about you and her. Doesnt that take alota the sting outta my game?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Ya. That's what I figured. I think women may actually be worse in this regard than men. I've dated some super hot girls that were fun to have my friends be jealous. I've also dated some plain looking girls. That are just avg in looks. My friends would just say. "Ya...she's alright" but I could really care less. As she had alota other good qualities. Where as I'm thinking a woman wants her friends to wanna f him. As jealousy is by far a more feminine characteristic.
 

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A guy will generally need approval from her girl friends in order to date a chick without them causing problems for him. On the other hand his buddies aren't going to stop him from dating whatever chick he wishes to.

(Of course if she's a ***** then they're not going to want you bring her around, but unlike the chicks they're not going to try and break you up.)
 

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A woman's friends are the worst. They definitely go with the pack, and want who everyone else in the group wants. I've experienced both sides. Either they all wanted me, or none of them did. Even if some of them originally were interested - they changed their minds almost instantly, once they "discussed" things with their dumb friends - until they realized that other women wanted me. Then, it was back on again. Same goes for co-workers. This happened to me countless times.

Quite retarded, they are. No minds of their own; going with whatever is cool, and whoever they all agree is "hot". It's like a damn herd. They are always asking for their friends' opinions on this garbage, and chasing after who everyone else wants.

They always discuss these things with their friends. Always. If you casually tell one of their friends that you asked her friend out in a fly-by conversation - they'll say, "yeah, she told me". And if that friend you're talking to doesn't like you - neither does she. This was discussed; you were viewed as not good enough; blah blah. Until that friend likes you because other women do - now that original person likes you. I **** you not. They actually do this. They want acceptance, and the coolest / hottest guy around - as per everyone else's opinion.

Another thing you gotta watch for is sabotaging and **** blocking. They're always competing with each other, and want the best relationship out of everyone in the group. If they're not happy and/or single and lonely - they don't want their friends to be happy and dating, and not focusing all their attention on them. They want everyone else to be single and unhappy, so they don't feel lesser than them. Experienced this before, too. Overheard a lot of **** that was fed into their minds - as the friends acted nonchalant about the whole thing - as if they were just giving friendly advice that was in their best interests (Ha ha... No).

Their friends opinions are always sought after, taken into consideration, and followed - especially if the girl in question is a follower. Most of them are, and want to "fit in".

Then you have the guy friends, which are the worst. But I don't need to get into that.

This is mostly the status *****s, though. A lot of hot / young / popular / superficial girls fit this bill. The decent ones don't care too much about this stuff, and don't have retarded friends who look down on those who aren't one of them. But, remember: you are the company you keep. She would have probably followed the pack eventually.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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floydb25 said:
A woman's friends are the worst. They definitely go with the pack, and want who everyone else in the group wants. I've experienced both sides. Either they all wanted me, or none of them did. Even if some of them originally were interested - they changed their minds almost instantly, once they "discussed" things with their dumb friends - until they realized that other women wanted me. Then, it was back on again. Same goes for co-workers. This happened to me countless times.

Quite retarded, they are. No minds of their own; going with whatever is cool, and whoever they all agree is "hot". It's like a damn herd. They are always asking for their friends' opinions on this garbage, and chasing after who everyone else wants.

They always discuss these things with their friends. Always. If you casually tell one of their friends that you asked her friend out in a fly-by conversation - they'll say, "yeah, she told me". And if that friend you're talking to doesn't like you - neither does she. This was discussed; you were viewed as not good enough; blah blah. Until that friend likes you because other women do - now that original person likes you. I **** you not. They actually do this. They want acceptance, and the coolest / hottest guy around - as per everyone else's opinion.

Another thing you gotta watch for is sabotaging and **** blocking. They're always competing with each other, and want the best relationship out of everyone in the group. If they're not happy and/or single and lonely - they don't want their friends to be happy and dating, and not focusing all their attention on them. They want everyone else to be single and unhappy, so they don't feel lesser than them. Experienced this before, too. Overheard a lot of **** that was fed into their minds - as the friends acted nonchalant about the whole thing - as if they were just giving friendly advice that was in their best interests (Ha ha... No).

Their friends opinions are always sought after, taken into consideration, and followed - especially if the girl in question is a follower. Most of them are, and want to "fit in".

Then you have the guy friends, which are the worst. But I don't need to get into that.

This is mostly the status *****s, though. A lot of hot / young / popular / superficial girls fit this bill. The decent ones don't care too much about this stuff, and don't have retarded friends who look down on those who aren't one of them. But, remember: you are the company you keep. She would have probably followed the pack eventually.

^^^This ENTIRE post. 100%.

This part especially:

Quite retarded, they are. No minds of their own; going with whatever is cool, and whoever they all agree is "hot". It's like a damn herd. They are always asking for their friends' opinions on this garbage, and chasing after who everyone else wants.

It's funny because it's so pathetically true. When girls act like that which MOST do. You have to look at them like children and be non-chalant about their nonsense. Laugh it off and keep it moving. They are easily brainwashed by their surroundings. Friends, T.V. gossip mags etc. Easily.
 

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If her friends don't like you, they try to sabotage your relationship.

If her friends do like you, they try to sabotage your relationship.
 

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bigneil said:
If her friends don't like you, they try to sabotage your relationship.

If her friends do like you, they try to sabotage your relationship.
Heh. So true. My ex girl's friends didn't like me. They thought I was controlling her or some **** since she never wanted to go to the bars or clubbing with them anymore (and honestly, I didn't care if she went, I trusted her enough). My ex used to tell me how they'd talk about me behind my back and one of them even deleted me from facebook while we were dating (attempt to stir drama, I guess?). I didn't really care though.

Since we broke up almost half a year ago, I've had even more of them remove me. Lol.
 

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"Then you have the guy friends, which are the worst. But I don't need to get into that."

Just wanted to let you know that you got this part right, too, floydb25.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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