I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Excuses are excuses. After middle school and maybe a little bit in high school the AFC's get burned out in NYC as well.EA Gold said:It's too easy in new york, even for afc's can get it without any effort. I'm not surprised.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Mike32ct said:To answer your question, her letting you go raw doesn't mean anything. For some women, it can mean she considers you a serious LTR partner, but for a casual sex partner it doesn't mean much. The reason I say that is that it is scary just how easy it is to go raw if you really wanted to. A lot of women are just purely driven by their emotions and instinct and in the heat of the moment they just don't care.
Plus the risk of getting knocked up secretly turns them on in ways we can't even comprehend. (Even on the pill, the whole point is that she can pretend she's getting knocked up for that extra thrill, but women won't tell you that.)
My last two ONS didn't even mention a condom. I use them EVERY time without exception. While they didn't protest, I could see the slight look of disappointment in their eyes as I unwrapped the condom. They would have so let me go raw, but I wasn't going there.
Am I curious about what raw is like? Hell yeah, but I'm not going to risk trying
I've never tried it without. I haven't had a serious gf, only ONS' and a couple short term relationships or FBs. I agree about the premature thing.BBbardot said:you never tried without condom? you never had a gf?
well for me it doesnt make much difference but for the guy it's a whole other thingn you'd probably finish prematurely ^^
well, it's never too late i guess. Crossing fingers for you.Mike32ct said:I've never tried it without. I haven't had a serious gf, only ONS' and a couple short term relationships or FBs. I agree about the premature thing.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Yes at 28.BBbardot said:bareback
well, it's never too late i guess. Crossing fingers for you.
( consider yourself half a virgin cause bareback is really something apparently)
wait wait, you're 35 and condom have really became generally used not so long ago... You must have lost your virginity pretty late no?
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
I am happy for you. But it only takes one to ruin your whole life.Leporello said:I'm not as naturally paranoid as some of these guys. I've never met a girl who lied about being on the Pill.
Borknagar said:Sure theres condoms, but their not always 100% effective.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.