"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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They will contact you, respond to you etc.

If not then they won't.

It's as simple as that .

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To the comments below:
I believe there are no gray areas. Thats why its important to ASK them out if you contact them (text/call). Then ESCALATE as soon as possible. Obviously if you text call and be a pvssy and small talk you wont KNOW.
After the first date, then BACK OFF for a while and let them come to you. If they dont then they may not be interested. I agree some girls maybe shy but if they LIKE you they WILL find a WAY to connect with you again. The way i see it is, if they DO LIKE you but dont respond or contact me, then they havent passed my SH!T test. BTW Im spinning plates so yourE NOT dependent on only one outcome.
 
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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And yet there are so many posters that come back after they disregard simple, plain advice....*smh*
 

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Ehhhhhhhhh that's a gray area don't you think? A girl can respond to you just to be nice. Doesn't mean she's into you. Also I'm not disregarding I'm just asking.
 

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JohnChops said:
Ehhhhhhhhh that's a gray area don't you think? A girl can respond to you just to be nice. Doesn't mean she's into you. Also I'm not disregarding I'm just asking.
On the surface the advice is good and straight forward. Too many guys chase women who don't reciprocate.

On the other hand you are right. Girls will totally lead a guy, friend zone them and waste your time so it's not always so black and white. You gotta know when you're in danger of being friend zoned or played. That's why if I'm interested in a girl I'm not calling/texting/talking to them unless I'm asking them out on a date. Time will always reveal if you're being played or not. Girls are great actresses but they can't keep the act up forever.

Outside of all this silliness I'm too busy getting stuff done or hanging out with my bros.
 

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If girls who like guys don't play games...what do we need game for again?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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mikey2012 said:
They will contact you, respond to you etc.

If not then they won't.

It's as simple as that .
Yep, we should sticky this lol. "New users please read before posting" .
 

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Only partly correct and GROSSLY misleading.

If a chick digs you, yes, she will respond to your texts, calls, invitations.

But a chick that's not interested may communicate with you a bit, but that doesn't mean she's interested. Her response to an invitation to get out tells you all you need to know.

Worse, chicks that DO DIG you may never contact you first. Either because (1) they are not accustomed to it, (2) they are nervous about whether you will respond favorably, or (3) they've been listening to BS advice from girlfriends and Cosmo about playing hard to get and not showing too much interest.

If every interested girl contacted you and/or made it obvious and easy to tell, boards like this would hardly be necessary.

All that said, it is a good rule of thumb to follow what Nismo repeats here regularly: a girl interested in you won't confuse it.

That's not 100% foolproof, but it's as good a rule of thumb we have around here as any.
 

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HalfPUAHalfAFC said:
Only partly correct and GROSSLY misleading.

If a chick digs you, yes, she will respond to your texts, calls, invitations.

But a chick that's not interested may communicate with you a bit, but that doesn't mean she's interested. Her response to an invitation to get out tells you all you need to know.

Worse, chicks that DO DIG you may never contact you first. Either because (1) they are not accustomed to it, (2) they are nervous about whether you will respond favorably, or (3) they've been listening to BS advice from girlfriends and Cosmo about playing hard to get and not showing too much interest.

If every interested girl contacted you and/or made it obvious and easy to tell, boards like this would hardly be necessary.

All that said, it is a good rule of thumb to follow what Nismo repeats here regularly: a girl interested in you won't confuse it.

That's not 100% foolproof, but it's as good a rule of thumb we have around here as any.

That is key right there.
 

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The extent to which a girl likes you will go up and down over time. Sometimes it is out of your control, but most of the time it depends a lot on what you do and say.
 

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mikey2012 said:
They will contact you, respond to you etc.

If not then they won't.

It's as simple as that .

EDIT:
To the comments below:
I believe there are no gray areas. Thats why its important to ASK them out if you contact them (text/call). Then ESCALATE as soon as possible. Obviously if you text call and be a pvssy and small talk you wont KNOW.
After the first date, then BACK OFF for a while and let them come to you. If they dont then they may not be interested. I agree some girls maybe shy but if they LIKE you they WILL find a WAY to connect with you again. The way i see it is, if they DO LIKE you but dont respond or contact me, then they havent passed my SH!T test. BTW Im spinning plates so your dependent on only one outcome.
EDITED MY ORIGINAL POST
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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