"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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They will contact you, respond to you etc.

If not then they won't.

It's as simple as that .

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To the comments below:
I believe there are no gray areas. Thats why its important to ASK them out if you contact them (text/call). Then ESCALATE as soon as possible. Obviously if you text call and be a pvssy and small talk you wont KNOW.
After the first date, then BACK OFF for a while and let them come to you. If they dont then they may not be interested. I agree some girls maybe shy but if they LIKE you they WILL find a WAY to connect with you again. The way i see it is, if they DO LIKE you but dont respond or contact me, then they havent passed my SH!T test. BTW Im spinning plates so yourE NOT dependent on only one outcome.
 
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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And yet there are so many posters that come back after they disregard simple, plain advice....*smh*
 

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Ehhhhhhhhh that's a gray area don't you think? A girl can respond to you just to be nice. Doesn't mean she's into you. Also I'm not disregarding I'm just asking.
 

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JohnChops said:
Ehhhhhhhhh that's a gray area don't you think? A girl can respond to you just to be nice. Doesn't mean she's into you. Also I'm not disregarding I'm just asking.
On the surface the advice is good and straight forward. Too many guys chase women who don't reciprocate.

On the other hand you are right. Girls will totally lead a guy, friend zone them and waste your time so it's not always so black and white. You gotta know when you're in danger of being friend zoned or played. That's why if I'm interested in a girl I'm not calling/texting/talking to them unless I'm asking them out on a date. Time will always reveal if you're being played or not. Girls are great actresses but they can't keep the act up forever.

Outside of all this silliness I'm too busy getting stuff done or hanging out with my bros.
 

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If girls who like guys don't play games...what do we need game for again?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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mikey2012 said:
They will contact you, respond to you etc.

If not then they won't.

It's as simple as that .
Yep, we should sticky this lol. "New users please read before posting" .
 

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Only partly correct and GROSSLY misleading.

If a chick digs you, yes, she will respond to your texts, calls, invitations.

But a chick that's not interested may communicate with you a bit, but that doesn't mean she's interested. Her response to an invitation to get out tells you all you need to know.

Worse, chicks that DO DIG you may never contact you first. Either because (1) they are not accustomed to it, (2) they are nervous about whether you will respond favorably, or (3) they've been listening to BS advice from girlfriends and Cosmo about playing hard to get and not showing too much interest.

If every interested girl contacted you and/or made it obvious and easy to tell, boards like this would hardly be necessary.

All that said, it is a good rule of thumb to follow what Nismo repeats here regularly: a girl interested in you won't confuse it.

That's not 100% foolproof, but it's as good a rule of thumb we have around here as any.
 

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HalfPUAHalfAFC said:
Only partly correct and GROSSLY misleading.

If a chick digs you, yes, she will respond to your texts, calls, invitations.

But a chick that's not interested may communicate with you a bit, but that doesn't mean she's interested. Her response to an invitation to get out tells you all you need to know.

Worse, chicks that DO DIG you may never contact you first. Either because (1) they are not accustomed to it, (2) they are nervous about whether you will respond favorably, or (3) they've been listening to BS advice from girlfriends and Cosmo about playing hard to get and not showing too much interest.

If every interested girl contacted you and/or made it obvious and easy to tell, boards like this would hardly be necessary.

All that said, it is a good rule of thumb to follow what Nismo repeats here regularly: a girl interested in you won't confuse it.

That's not 100% foolproof, but it's as good a rule of thumb we have around here as any.

That is key right there.
 

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The extent to which a girl likes you will go up and down over time. Sometimes it is out of your control, but most of the time it depends a lot on what you do and say.
 

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mikey2012 said:
They will contact you, respond to you etc.

If not then they won't.

It's as simple as that .

EDIT:
To the comments below:
I believe there are no gray areas. Thats why its important to ASK them out if you contact them (text/call). Then ESCALATE as soon as possible. Obviously if you text call and be a pvssy and small talk you wont KNOW.
After the first date, then BACK OFF for a while and let them come to you. If they dont then they may not be interested. I agree some girls maybe shy but if they LIKE you they WILL find a WAY to connect with you again. The way i see it is, if they DO LIKE you but dont respond or contact me, then they havent passed my SH!T test. BTW Im spinning plates so your dependent on only one outcome.
EDITED MY ORIGINAL POST
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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