You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I think a test would be usefull for newbies. It would let them assess their dj skills and see what part of their game they should tweak.
First of all, I'm Canadian.
WHOA WHOA !!! I did not start this topic to start a flame war. I don't want this topic to get ban cause of a flame war. If you don't think their should be a dj test then just say no or vote no and thats it. Please Please don't start flames in my topics. If you don't like someone then start a flame war in private message just not in my post. Thank youYou asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I felt I had to flame because that way, maybe he'll understand that being a DJ isn't all about what he thinks it is.
Who can truly define a DJ (shaddap Pook). But really, even if there was a test and there was a definitive way to define one AND some takes the test and passes 100%; then what??? Is that it? Is that all? Is there not anything else that he could learn?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.