"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Idea on how to ask her out

crazyman11

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Alright, i dunno why, but i feel like asking this girl who is obviously into me out this way. When the time is right, I'll say "So.... When are you gonna get to the point and ask me out?" and then give a nice grin after. Should I do that, or just do the normal "what are you doing this weekend" thing? What would be the more Dj thing to do? I like my idea because it's original(kinda), but I'm giving her control. So what do you guys think?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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War Against Betaism

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If she is into you then I think you should just go the standard way and just ask her out. While you do say it is giving her control, in almost all situations when a guy asks a girl out she is given a choice anyways. No guy is gonna go up to a girl and say to her "Hey you, you're gonna be my girlfriend!" And you're giving her way too much control in this situation with that line. It's implying that you're waiting for HER to start the relationship instead of YOU, and what did we learn about men being in control of things?
 

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OH! I think i got a good replacement for it. Thx for the advice

And yea, it'll be where i'm in control

The only thing is i really am failing to come up with a date idea. All i can think of is ice skating, bowling, or mini golf. I dont really think those are great ideas
 

SinJester

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Ice skating, bowling and mini gold are all great ideas.

Try this: "Hey you should come ice skating/bowling/mini golfing with me"

hen the time is right, I'll say "So.... When are you gonna get to the point and ask me out?" and then give a nice grin after.
That's actually pretty goods. Don't look for the right time, it might never come. Make the right time.
 
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