"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Idea on how to ask her out

crazyman11

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Alright, i dunno why, but i feel like asking this girl who is obviously into me out this way. When the time is right, I'll say "So.... When are you gonna get to the point and ask me out?" and then give a nice grin after. Should I do that, or just do the normal "what are you doing this weekend" thing? What would be the more Dj thing to do? I like my idea because it's original(kinda), but I'm giving her control. So what do you guys think?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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War Against Betaism

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If she is into you then I think you should just go the standard way and just ask her out. While you do say it is giving her control, in almost all situations when a guy asks a girl out she is given a choice anyways. No guy is gonna go up to a girl and say to her "Hey you, you're gonna be my girlfriend!" And you're giving her way too much control in this situation with that line. It's implying that you're waiting for HER to start the relationship instead of YOU, and what did we learn about men being in control of things?
 

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OH! I think i got a good replacement for it. Thx for the advice

And yea, it'll be where i'm in control

The only thing is i really am failing to come up with a date idea. All i can think of is ice skating, bowling, or mini golf. I dont really think those are great ideas
 

SinJester

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Ice skating, bowling and mini gold are all great ideas.

Try this: "Hey you should come ice skating/bowling/mini golfing with me"

hen the time is right, I'll say "So.... When are you gonna get to the point and ask me out?" and then give a nice grin after.
That's actually pretty goods. Don't look for the right time, it might never come. Make the right time.
 
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