"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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It's crazy, but it seems if you get rejected once in a day, going after other girls will also get you nothing but rejection. I can't wait to become a millionaire just to attract beautiful women, that's light years away.

Any of this back-to-back rejection crap happen to you guys? How do you handle it?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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nismo-4 said:
It's crazy, but it seems if you get rejected once in a day, going after other girls will also get you nothing but rejection. I can't wait to become a millionaire just to attract beautiful women, that's light years away.

Any of this back-to-back rejection crap happen to you guys? How do you handle it?
I think you're letting the first rejection affect your mood and confidence.
 

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I don't care to be honest.

I get apprehensive about it at first of course, but then I remember that rejection is better than regret.

It may be something that you're doing wrong.
 

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nismo-4 said:
It's crazy, but it seems if you get rejected once in a day, going after other girls will also get you nothing but rejection. I can't wait to become a millionaire just to attract beautiful women, that's light years away.

Any of this back-to-back rejection crap happen to you guys? How do you handle it?

It all took care of itself when I made my second million.


Cheers!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Money won't truly attract women to you. Maybe temporarily, which is even worse as they will just use you.

What you speak of is the self-fulfilling prophecy. If you believe you're going to be rejected, you will be.
 

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WC2 said:
Money won't truly attract women to you. Maybe temporarily, which is even worse as they will just use you.

What you speak of is the self-fulfilling prophecy. If you believe you're going to be rejected, you will be.
Just gotta make sure they have something REAL to bring to the table. Sure, there's the arm candy factor, but i'd cut 'em loose if I find they're after my wallet and not me.
 

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WC2 said:
Money won't truly attract women to you. Maybe temporarily, which is even worse as they will just use you.

What you speak of is the self-fulfilling prophecy. If you believe you're going to be rejected, you will be.
Could not have said it better. I am a big believer in the self-fulfilling prophecy. The past rejections that have left you vulnerable, anxious, even upset could manifest themselves in many ways, such as coming off as desperate and/or creepy. Of course, you're not consciously aware of these subtle hints, but women are very alert and will turn tale if they detect an uncomfortable and insecure man.
 

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nismo-4 said:
It's crazy, but it seems if you get rejected once in a day, going after other girls will also get you nothing but rejection. I can't wait to become a millionaire just to attract beautiful women, that's light years away.

Any of this back-to-back rejection crap happen to you guys? How do you handle it?
First, money has nothing to do with getting chicks. Nothing. Zero. Unless they're LA/Vegas gold diggers.

MONEY HAS NOT ONE GOD DAMN THING TO DO WITH PICKING UP WOMEN.


In fact it can work against you in terms of sexually connection - the Lover vs Provider dilemma.

Secondly, your mind is working against you. My bet is you accept that your reality has become you getting rejected by girls and you do feel down after it. You take it personally. Don't.

If you continue with a negative mindset your mind will look for evidence to confirm this and you will attract/invest more energy into this.


Key Takeaways:

1) Money can become a liability when picking up chicks. Make money for yourself, not to pick up women.

2) Take nothing personally. If she rejects you, so what? A better looking, more concupiscent woman is waiting for you.

Go with the flow man, enjoy the moment. Let go of your concern of being "accepted" or "rejected" in the end, they're just words.
 

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pLaYtHiNg said:
Could not have said it better. I am a big believer in the self-fulfilling prophecy. The past rejections that have left you vulnerable, anxious, even upset could manifest themselves in many ways, such as coming off as desperate and/or creepy. Of course, you're not consciously aware of these subtle hints, but women are very alert and will turn tale if they detect an uncomfortable and insecure man.
This is why the successful man takes rejection as a lesson, not a bad omen.

It's also why the unsuccessful man never gets laid; he's scared of rejection and thus he's scared of women.

In fact, whenever I'm rejected by a woman, I don't even think about it till later on. In the moment, I just move on to my next target. I do my homework later on, not in the moment.

I've heard the saying that a woman knows right away if she wants to have sex with you or not.

Your mentality into approaching situations and first impressions tell women a lot.

So the lesson is... BE SECURE IN YOURSELF.. not for women but for you. All the time. Why not?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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