"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I wonder if I give off a husband vibe?

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every time I approach a girl, she takes it way too serious. For example, the other day this girl asked about my religion and I told her my religion. she said "that's not going to work because I don't practice religion"

at this point I was thinking "bihthc I am not trying to marry you, this is just a physical relationship"

now you might think that was just an excuse to get rid of me, but I have the opposite example too, women taking me too seriously when I am going out with them already. I can't think of any examples off the top of my head now, but I remember the last time I went out with a girl the things she was saying made me think "she is taking this way too seriously"

I don't know if the problem is that I am not clear with my intent or if I give of a marriage vibe or maybe it's just girls' evolutionary nature to take a mate too seriously (because they might get pregnant and have to carry the baby for 9 months and all that)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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espanish said:
every time I approach a girl, she takes it way too serious. For example, the other day this girl asked about my religion and I told her my religion. she said "that's not going to work because I don't practice religion"

at this point I was thinking "bihthc I am not trying to marry you, this is just a physical relationship"

now you might think that was just an excuse to get rid of me, but I have the opposite example too, women taking me too seriously when I am going out with them already. I can't think of any examples off the top of my head now, but I remember the last time I went out with a girl the things she was saying made me think "she is taking this way too seriously"

I don't know if the problem is that I am not clear with my intent or if I give of a marriage vibe or maybe it's just girls' evolutionary nature to take a mate too seriously (because they might get pregnant and have to carry the baby for 9 months and all that)
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practice improv so you can be quick on the draw.
her: 'thats not going to work because i don't practice religion'
you: 'it's ok i don't discriminate'

that one sentence turns what could be seen as her disqualifying you into you qualifying her.

always spin the mood back into playful fun territory and the tests get easier until they're non-existent. if they don't get easier then it gets boring and you feel natural aversion anyway. always playfully push against whatever rule they're trying to set. they want you to overcome their rules and own the playing field, that's what gets them off, not a man that complies and sucks up. if you get a firm or super serious/mean pushback then disengage and she'll probably feel guilty and come back anyway. or she'll disappear because she's insecure/crazy. win win win.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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