I wonder if I give off a husband vibe?

[espanish]

every time I approach a girl, she takes it way too serious. For example, the other day this girl asked about my religion and I told her my religion. she said "that's not going to work because I don't practice religion"

at this point I was thinking "bihthc I am not trying to marry you, this is just a physical relationship"

now you might think that was just an excuse to get rid of me, but I have the opposite example too, women taking me too seriously when I am going out with them already. I can't think of any examples off the top of my head now, but I remember the last time I went out with a girl the things she was saying made me think "she is taking this way too seriously"

I don't know if the problem is that I am not clear with my intent or if I give of a marriage vibe or maybe it's just girls' evolutionary nature to take a mate too seriously (because they might get pregnant and have to carry the baby for 9 months and all that)

 

[Mike32ct]

There is no such thing as a husband vibe per se. Women separate the one night stand guy and the potential husband guy by his looks/look and also perceived income/stability.

 

[ubercat]

Maybe it's worse than that. Maybe you give off an ex-husband vibe

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

every time I approach a girl, she takes it way too serious. For example, the other day this girl asked about my religion and I told her my religion. she said "that's not going to work because I don't practice religion"

at this point I was thinking "bihthc I am not trying to marry you, this is just a physical relationship"

now you might think that was just an excuse to get rid of me, but I have the opposite example too, women taking me too seriously when I am going out with them already. I can't think of any examples off the top of my head now, but I remember the last time I went out with a girl the things she was saying made me think "she is taking this way too seriously"

I don't know if the problem is that I am not clear with my intent or if I give of a marriage vibe or maybe it's just girls' evolutionary nature to take a mate too seriously (because they might get pregnant and have to carry the baby for 9 months and all that)

practice improv so you can be quick on the draw.
her: 'thats not going to work because i don't practice religion'
you: 'it's ok i don't discriminate'

that one sentence turns what could be seen as her disqualifying you into you qualifying her.

always spin the mood back into playful fun territory and the tests get easier until they're non-existent. if they don't get easier then it gets boring and you feel natural aversion anyway. always playfully push against whatever rule they're trying to set. they want you to overcome their rules and own the playing field, that's what gets them off, not a man that complies and sucks up. if you get a firm or super serious/mean pushback then disengage and she'll probably feel guilty and come back anyway. or she'll disappear because she's insecure/crazy. win win win.

 

[ubercat]

You have to blow the interview date out of the water with more and more ridiculous answers.