Bonhomme said:
TOTALLY
WRONG
ATTITUDE
Few things turn off a woman more than a man with an obvious agenda to get laid. It's the very premise of countless grade-Z teen comedies.
Focus on improving yourself and having a good time, and the "getting laid" bit will take care of itself when the time is right. Maybe even much earlier than you expect, if your focus is right.
It's not wrong. If you get the skill set then you'll become less bothered by it anyway. But it has to be gained one way or another. You have to know how to approach, talk to women and get them into bed. And ok let's forget about the getting laid agenda as you call it. Let's say getting a girlfriend. You need the skill set to get a girlfriend, and sex is a part of that of course.
Many guys improve themselves, have a good time with friends and are sociable, they still don't get laid or have gfs. Most guys aren't that sexually active, period. Men don't get laid. That's what summarises it for me.
It doesn't take care of itself. Myth again. YOU have to take care of it. It's totally fine if you already have the skill set and you take things easy as you described and still get women, but it's a completely different thing to take it easy when you don't get the women you want.
And to be honest, whenever I go into clubs, 99 % of guys are desperately looking at women and wishing they could shag them and many are single. Enough are good looking or at least it ain't a problem. They go home and wank themselves to sleep.
Solution: Accept you aren't born with the ability to pick up girls within this social matrix, and learn to do so.
Stats like "the median 22 year old girl has more than twice the sex of the median 22 year old guy", "guys depression and suicide rates are far higher than womens" and the study where 99 % of guys accepted sex from a hot girl but nearly 0 women did from a hot guy, suggest you need to take action and gain the skill set to attract women.
And in all honesty, unless you can just walk into a club or to a social gathering and nearly guarantee that you can pick up a woman of your liking, then you haven't got that skill set. The vast majority of guys don't have that skill set. I've only met one in my entire life.