"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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i went on a blind date

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One of my friends hooked me up with it. I wasn't gunna go but I decided to because I'd never been on one before and thought it would be kinda fun. :/

I go meet her and I see her, and this chick is ugly and like 2 stone over weight. I felt like running at that time but she was already walking towards me. And she brought 2 of her friends that just happened to appear after about 15 minutes.

I was bored and didnt even talk to her that much. But then she texts me later on at night telling me she really liked me and she wanted to make sure I didn't want to use her for sex. haha


Has any one else ever been on a blind date thats gone err bad?
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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onyx said:
But then she texts me later on at night telling me she really liked me and she wanted to make sure I didn't want to use her for sex. haha
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lol! She wants to f.uck you really bad.
 
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There's nothing worse than friends setting you up on blind dates. More times than not they don't take into account if either of you have anything in common; their only criteria is that the two of you are single. Next time someone suggests that you meet someone blindly, ask for a picture and a bio, it's not like you can send your order back once the date begins.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
There's nothing worse than friends setting you up on blind dates. More times than not they don't take into account if either of you have anything in common; their only criteria is that the two of you are single. Next time someone suggests that you meet someone blindly, ask for a picture and a bio, it's not like you can send your order back once the date begins.
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it wasnt exactly a blind date she sent me a picture to my phone..my mate didnt know her either really..it was a friend of her friends..and they asked me if I would do it

***** was ugly..she sent me a picture before so I would know what she looked like..kinda..the picture looked NOTHING like her..the picture she sent was of a cute quite slim blonde chick with curly long hair...the chick i met had a double chin and straight mousey blonde hair...i think she sent me a old pic or something
 
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Gents, everytime a friend is setting you up on a blind date, just know that the girl is always the one who will be getting the better end of it. Either you, the man, will be more attractive, because if she was hot, she'd be getting hit on left and right, or she'll have too much baggage.

Girls will look out for girls, so they won't care if she's not your type, as long as they think their friend will like you.

Guys won't set you up with hotties because, lets face it, guys are big c0ckblocks and they rather wait for their chance to hook up with them, or won't want to set you up with a hotter chick than they are.
 
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Gangster, you hit the nail exactly on the head, blind dates are never a good idea.
 
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Onyx,

Your experience reminds me The Office Christmas Special when David Brent met that woman with the scarf...esp, the reaction upon first seeing the woman...way too perfect.
 
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onyx said:
it wasnt exactly a blind date she sent me a picture to my phone..my mate didnt know her either really..it was a friend of her friends..and they asked me if I would do it
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Damn, they collaborated to set you up. I say it's time for retribution! :box:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Gangster Of Love said:
Guys won't set you up with hotties because, lets face it, guys are big c0ckblocks and they rather wait for their chance to hook up with them, or won't want to set you up with a hotter chick than they are.
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Gangster, I can't tell you how right you are. I had my best friend call a woman he knew - on my behalf, because I only met her once - to ask her if I could give her a call. What he did was talk to her to see if he could get anywhere with her, and if he couldn't, then he was going to mention my name as a way to bail himself out. I was pissed. He started sleeping with her... I was even more pissed. The best part was when she started mentioning me to him.

The only guy I knew that didn't block and tried to set me up with a cute friend of his was gay.
 
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