"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I Went for it! I achieved!

BadBoy10605

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Hello again friends!
Today, after school, I was walking down the hallway, when I seen this hottie that I've been talking about. She starts walking the opposite direction towards me. She sees me and I begin to walk with her. I smile and say "Hey!" She smiles and says "Hey"
Me: (after a slight pause) What is your number?
Danielle: (pauses) and smiles and begins to read off her number 763-03....
Me: Get a pen?
Danielle: No, sorry I don't.
Then we walk by a trashcan and I see a piece of our school newspaper there.
Me: Here write it down on this. (she proceeds)
Me: Want my number too?
Danielle: Yeah! Sure.
I then proceed to write it down. When I hand it to her I say "Now... no calling 10 times a day!" and she laughes and smiles. We both say goodbye and I walk away with a huge smile.

There's one thing that I learned from this week. And that is, if you don't ask for the number then your going to feel so much regret. But even if this chick didn't give me her number I would have felt so releaved and happy because I did what, sadly, many guys don't do. Make like Nike and "Just Do It!"
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Giovanni Casanova

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Originally posted by BadBoy10605:
Hello again friends!
Today, after school, I was walking down the hallway, when I seen this hottie that I've been talking about. She starts walking the opposite direction towards me. She sees me and I begin to walk with her. I smile and say "Hey!" She smiles and says "Hey"
Me: (after a slight pause) What is your number?
Danielle: (pauses) and smiles and begins to read off her number 763-03....
Me: Get a pen?
Danielle: No, sorry I don't.
Then we walk by a trashcan and I see a piece of our school newspaper there.
Me: Here write it down on this. (she proceeds)
Me: Want my number too?
Danielle: Yeah! Sure.
I then proceed to write it down. When I hand it to her I say "Now... no calling 10 times a day!" and she laughes and smiles. We both say goodbye and I walk away with a huge smile.

There's one thing that I learned from this week. And that is, if you don't ask for the number then your going to feel so much regret. But even if this chick didn't give me her number I would have felt so releaved and happy because I did what, sadly, many guys don't do. Make like Nike and "Just Do It!"

Well played. Congrats, you're on your way.





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CASANOVA

"You can discover what your enemy fears most by observing the means he uses to frighten you."
Eric Hoffer

"I may disagree with what you have to say, but I shall defend, to the death, your right to say it."
Voltaire

"Before we set our hearts too much upon anything, let us examine how happy those are who already possess it."
Francois de La Rochefoucauld
 

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that was good, nice to see people taking action and getting somewhere, the only problem i see with this is you giving her your number, that could be percieved as a friendly exchange and nothing more, plus, you want to stay in control, you do not want her to call you.
 

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Originally posted by CalmMind:
that was good, nice to see people taking action and getting somewhere, the only problem i see with this is you giving her your number, that could be percieved as a friendly exchange and nothing more, plus, you want to stay in control, you do not want her to call you.
good point, but also if she has high interest then its easy to tell right away
 

De La Soul

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If you don't shoot you can't score and at the end of the day, regret at doing nothing is much worse than regret at taking action.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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De La Soul

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It's a badly-kept secret.
(in fact I've never regretted taking the initiative) lol
 
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