"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I was told not to post a question in the tips forum, so here it is...

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I just started a new program at college, and there is one girl in my class...I think she's pretty sexy. We talked today and she mentioned it is her birthday tomorrow, so should I do anything about it?

I can't invite her to the pub for a drink because I have to drive to an important appointment right after class, so what do you guys think i should do, that is, if anything at all?

Thanks!

P.S. Mods, go ahead and delete that post in th etips section. My appologies!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Chromeo

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you dont even know this chick, why does she deserve anything because its her birthday?

ask her how her birthday was the next time you see her. thats it.

most guys are gonna offer to buy her a drink or try to invite themselves to the party.

wasted-nicks idea isnt bad, could be funny
 
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i agree with chromeo. you don't know her so why should you do anything for her?

Just wish her a happy birthday and tell her you'll buy her a drink next time your available since you have to jet now.

The next 2-3 times don't mention anything and possibly the 4th time u see her again remind her about that drink.
 

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I disagree... You should give her some stupid, cutesy, funny, cheap gift. Something you'd find on the counter at a convenient store - no more than $1.

Be a little more bold and set yourself apart.
 

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I'd tell her you'd like to take her out for a b-day drink but you have an appt right after class and see if she'll agree to another time for the belated drink. Nothin to lose right? You aren't a man if you can't risk rejection. So what if she were to say no. Give it a shot brother.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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seek&destroy

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I was thinking more like...not spend a dime on her and make a card using computer software lol. It won't take me longer than 2 minutes, I just need to think of a cheeky/funny comment I can put in there. Any suggestions?

P.S. A buddy of mine (he has a GF of 3 years though) bought her a card. Like I said I have an idea, but do you think that would be appropriate or would that be going overboard with it?

Thanks!
 

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cheesy card = overboard

We gave you advice on what to do already. Just wish her a happy birthday and ask her how it went the next time you see her. Don't worry, you'll probably be the last thing on her mind that day.
 

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i didnt say cheesy though, i said cheeky.

there's a difference between the two
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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wasted-nick said:
I disagree... You should give her some stupid, cutesy, funny, cheap gift. Something you'd find on the counter at a convenient store - no more than $1.

Be a little more bold and set yourself apart.

Yes that is great advice, give a girl a gift when you don't even know here. Some guys here, regardless of age don't seem understand that its NEVER about the cost, its the image it will create in her head about you right off the bat...


Never buy a girl anything when you don't even know her.


Just ask her how her birthday was, establish some rapport and create attraction. Then ask her out and see what happens.




PIMP
 

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Pimp-Sicle said:
Yes that is great advice, give a girl a gift when you don't even know here. Some guys here, regardless of age don't seem understand that its NEVER about the cost, its the image it will create in her head about you right off the bat...


Never buy a girl anything when you don't even know her.


Just ask her how her birthday was, establish some rapport and create attraction. Then ask her out and see what happens.
There's a difference between a guy that is thoughtful and creative and a smartass like that with everyone and one that buys a girl a gift to act different because he wants to f*ck her. Self shines through.

The birthday present you should give her is giving her the chance to spend time with you. Ask her out.
 
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