"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I was told not to post a question in the tips forum, so here it is...

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I just started a new program at college, and there is one girl in my class...I think she's pretty sexy. We talked today and she mentioned it is her birthday tomorrow, so should I do anything about it?

I can't invite her to the pub for a drink because I have to drive to an important appointment right after class, so what do you guys think i should do, that is, if anything at all?

Thanks!

P.S. Mods, go ahead and delete that post in th etips section. My appologies!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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you dont even know this chick, why does she deserve anything because its her birthday?

ask her how her birthday was the next time you see her. thats it.

most guys are gonna offer to buy her a drink or try to invite themselves to the party.

wasted-nicks idea isnt bad, could be funny
 
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i agree with chromeo. you don't know her so why should you do anything for her?

Just wish her a happy birthday and tell her you'll buy her a drink next time your available since you have to jet now.

The next 2-3 times don't mention anything and possibly the 4th time u see her again remind her about that drink.
 

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I disagree... You should give her some stupid, cutesy, funny, cheap gift. Something you'd find on the counter at a convenient store - no more than $1.

Be a little more bold and set yourself apart.
 

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I'd tell her you'd like to take her out for a b-day drink but you have an appt right after class and see if she'll agree to another time for the belated drink. Nothin to lose right? You aren't a man if you can't risk rejection. So what if she were to say no. Give it a shot brother.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I was thinking more like...not spend a dime on her and make a card using computer software lol. It won't take me longer than 2 minutes, I just need to think of a cheeky/funny comment I can put in there. Any suggestions?

P.S. A buddy of mine (he has a GF of 3 years though) bought her a card. Like I said I have an idea, but do you think that would be appropriate or would that be going overboard with it?

Thanks!
 

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cheesy card = overboard

We gave you advice on what to do already. Just wish her a happy birthday and ask her how it went the next time you see her. Don't worry, you'll probably be the last thing on her mind that day.
 

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i didnt say cheesy though, i said cheeky.

there's a difference between the two
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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wasted-nick said:
I disagree... You should give her some stupid, cutesy, funny, cheap gift. Something you'd find on the counter at a convenient store - no more than $1.

Be a little more bold and set yourself apart.

Yes that is great advice, give a girl a gift when you don't even know here. Some guys here, regardless of age don't seem understand that its NEVER about the cost, its the image it will create in her head about you right off the bat...


Never buy a girl anything when you don't even know her.


Just ask her how her birthday was, establish some rapport and create attraction. Then ask her out and see what happens.




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Pimp-Sicle said:
Yes that is great advice, give a girl a gift when you don't even know here. Some guys here, regardless of age don't seem understand that its NEVER about the cost, its the image it will create in her head about you right off the bat...


Never buy a girl anything when you don't even know her.


Just ask her how her birthday was, establish some rapport and create attraction. Then ask her out and see what happens.
There's a difference between a guy that is thoughtful and creative and a smartass like that with everyone and one that buys a girl a gift to act different because he wants to f*ck her. Self shines through.

The birthday present you should give her is giving her the chance to spend time with you. Ask her out.
 
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