"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I was going to buy myself a room in the campus today

ChalengeGuyFan

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Like the title says, I was going to buy myself a room in the campus today, where to stay for a year.
I met with the guy who was selling it and checked it out. It was a reasonably clean place, and reasonably crowded.

Plenty of pretty girls in that part of the campus; living there would probably be a nice boost to my social life, and to my success with girls. Or probably not, given my personality, experience and internal struggles.

But, overall, I left with a bitter taste and contradicting desires. On one part is my long term desire to live in the campus together with the students and on the other the impression that many of the people there are ambitionless and not as interesting as I have imagined.

Is living in the campus as interesting as I thought, or is it just an illusion that I made up inside my head? (mostly a rhetoric q)

I don't know...
Can't I live that life if I don't move there? What if I get into the activities that attract the students? Could I get anywhere close to the experience I'd get if I moved there?

I have already missed the train when I was 18 and will probably regret it for a long time to come (my whole life?). What if let this train go?

The bottom line: is the experience I'd get if I moved there attainable if I don't?
Keep in mind that I am living in a shell at the moment and I have a hard time meeting new people. I don't do so bad when I'm with old friends and their friends...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Chamber36

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my problem is similar.

I'm a very extroverted guy and moving into a campus at my engineering Uni would be handy because I'd be close to school, but I really don't want to hang around all those socially awkward engineering students.

I'm also 2-3 years older than most of them and I feel like hanging around them will exacerbate my AFC traits. They're all AFC, so I don't really want to hang around them

But in your case, I think you should go, because you have nothing to lose.

I'm on the verge of dropping out, after 3 weeks. Heavily pondering what to do with my life this year and the next.
 

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4th year student in uni here now. In my opinion DO IT. No question about it. Living close to campus (if not in the dorms) is one of the best decisions you can make. It opens up a whole new level of experiences you can have and you can hang out with friends, have friends over, study together etc etc, stay on campus longer. If you have to commute to school then a lot of those chances go away; I doubt any of my close friends would want to ride the bus/train/whatever for 20 minutes just to hang out and study or something.
 
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