"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I was going to buy myself a room in the campus today

ChalengeGuyFan

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Like the title says, I was going to buy myself a room in the campus today, where to stay for a year.
I met with the guy who was selling it and checked it out. It was a reasonably clean place, and reasonably crowded.

Plenty of pretty girls in that part of the campus; living there would probably be a nice boost to my social life, and to my success with girls. Or probably not, given my personality, experience and internal struggles.

But, overall, I left with a bitter taste and contradicting desires. On one part is my long term desire to live in the campus together with the students and on the other the impression that many of the people there are ambitionless and not as interesting as I have imagined.

Is living in the campus as interesting as I thought, or is it just an illusion that I made up inside my head? (mostly a rhetoric q)

I don't know...
Can't I live that life if I don't move there? What if I get into the activities that attract the students? Could I get anywhere close to the experience I'd get if I moved there?

I have already missed the train when I was 18 and will probably regret it for a long time to come (my whole life?). What if let this train go?

The bottom line: is the experience I'd get if I moved there attainable if I don't?
Keep in mind that I am living in a shell at the moment and I have a hard time meeting new people. I don't do so bad when I'm with old friends and their friends...
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Chamber36

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my problem is similar.

I'm a very extroverted guy and moving into a campus at my engineering Uni would be handy because I'd be close to school, but I really don't want to hang around all those socially awkward engineering students.

I'm also 2-3 years older than most of them and I feel like hanging around them will exacerbate my AFC traits. They're all AFC, so I don't really want to hang around them

But in your case, I think you should go, because you have nothing to lose.

I'm on the verge of dropping out, after 3 weeks. Heavily pondering what to do with my life this year and the next.
 

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4th year student in uni here now. In my opinion DO IT. No question about it. Living close to campus (if not in the dorms) is one of the best decisions you can make. It opens up a whole new level of experiences you can have and you can hang out with friends, have friends over, study together etc etc, stay on campus longer. If you have to commute to school then a lot of those chances go away; I doubt any of my close friends would want to ride the bus/train/whatever for 20 minutes just to hang out and study or something.
 
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