backbreaker
Master Don Juan
Disdain things you cannot have: Ignoring them is the best revenge.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
I was going over the 48 laws of power and this one setence jumped out at me
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Mine is law number 48:
Assume Formlessness:
"By taking a shape, by having a visible plan, you open yourself to attack. Instead of taking a form for your enemy to grasp, keep yourself adaptable and on the move. Accept the fact that nothing is certain and no law is fixed. The best way to protect yourself is to be as fluid and formless as water; never bet on stability or lasting order. Everything changes."
I think the above statment pretty much sums up the difference between a PUA and a DJ.
Assume Formlessness:
"By taking a shape, by having a visible plan, you open yourself to attack. Instead of taking a form for your enemy to grasp, keep yourself adaptable and on the move. Accept the fact that nothing is certain and no law is fixed. The best way to protect yourself is to be as fluid and formless as water; never bet on stability or lasting order. Everything changes."
I think the above statment pretty much sums up the difference between a PUA and a DJ.
Boner da Stoner
Master Don Juan
I was just thinking about Bruce Lee and how he complements formlessness...
His quote about being water is excellent, formless, but if you put all of yourself into what your goal is you can cause a tremendous crash...
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hmm on a side note
be a tsunami... it is in the media that 3 times as many women died, from the christmas tsunami last year, compared to men.
His quote about being water is excellent, formless, but if you put all of yourself into what your goal is you can cause a tremendous crash...
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hmm on a side note
be a tsunami... it is in the media that 3 times as many women died, from the christmas tsunami last year, compared to men.
wheelin&dealin
Master Don Juan
I always crack open the 48 laws book and read a few pages every now and then. Very interesting, yet basic stuff that can be applied towards almost any aspect of your life.
DonCharlie24
Don Juan
im on law 8 right now, good book so far.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
moved to ae
Brian20o2
Master Don Juan
lol I just finished reading that yesterday. Good book.
Ya... Def. a Dope Book!
I'm on my 2nd round of it right now.
I'm sure you've all read "the Art of Seduction" by R.Greene as well.
More devilishly thoroughy insight. Delicious!
Anyone read his... 36 Stategies of War?
Pretty much his break down of SunTzu's: Art of War.
No doubt its got to be of the same brilliance, as his other books.
SuaveOn'
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I'm on my 2nd round of it right now.
I'm sure you've all read "the Art of Seduction" by R.Greene as well.
More devilishly thoroughy insight. Delicious!
Anyone read his... 36 Stategies of War?
Pretty much his break down of SunTzu's: Art of War.
No doubt its got to be of the same brilliance, as his other books.
SuaveOn'
-DarkLight-
SeldomSeen
Senior Don Juan
RE:
36 Strategies doesnt come out till Jan or Feb 2006
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.