backbreaker
Master Don Juan
Disdain things you cannot have: Ignoring them is the best revenge.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I was going over the 48 laws of power and this one setence jumped out at me
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Mine is law number 48:
Assume Formlessness:
"By taking a shape, by having a visible plan, you open yourself to attack. Instead of taking a form for your enemy to grasp, keep yourself adaptable and on the move. Accept the fact that nothing is certain and no law is fixed. The best way to protect yourself is to be as fluid and formless as water; never bet on stability or lasting order. Everything changes."
I think the above statment pretty much sums up the difference between a PUA and a DJ.
Assume Formlessness:
"By taking a shape, by having a visible plan, you open yourself to attack. Instead of taking a form for your enemy to grasp, keep yourself adaptable and on the move. Accept the fact that nothing is certain and no law is fixed. The best way to protect yourself is to be as fluid and formless as water; never bet on stability or lasting order. Everything changes."
I think the above statment pretty much sums up the difference between a PUA and a DJ.
Boner da Stoner
Master Don Juan
I was just thinking about Bruce Lee and how he complements formlessness...
His quote about being water is excellent, formless, but if you put all of yourself into what your goal is you can cause a tremendous crash...
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hmm on a side note
be a tsunami... it is in the media that 3 times as many women died, from the christmas tsunami last year, compared to men.
His quote about being water is excellent, formless, but if you put all of yourself into what your goal is you can cause a tremendous crash...
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hmm on a side note
be a tsunami... it is in the media that 3 times as many women died, from the christmas tsunami last year, compared to men.
wheelin&dealin
Master Don Juan
I always crack open the 48 laws book and read a few pages every now and then. Very interesting, yet basic stuff that can be applied towards almost any aspect of your life.
DonCharlie24
Don Juan
im on law 8 right now, good book so far.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
moved to ae
Brian20o2
Master Don Juan
lol I just finished reading that yesterday. Good book.
Ya... Def. a Dope Book!
I'm on my 2nd round of it right now.
I'm sure you've all read "the Art of Seduction" by R.Greene as well.
More devilishly thoroughy insight. Delicious!
Anyone read his... 36 Stategies of War?
Pretty much his break down of SunTzu's: Art of War.
No doubt its got to be of the same brilliance, as his other books.
SuaveOn'
-DarkLight-
I'm on my 2nd round of it right now.
I'm sure you've all read "the Art of Seduction" by R.Greene as well.
More devilishly thoroughy insight. Delicious!
Anyone read his... 36 Stategies of War?
Pretty much his break down of SunTzu's: Art of War.
No doubt its got to be of the same brilliance, as his other books.
SuaveOn'
-DarkLight-
SeldomSeen
Senior Don Juan
RE:
36 Strategies doesnt come out till Jan or Feb 2006
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.