Chunkydo
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She was cheating on me. End of story.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I was Dumped without a reason. Now I get an email.
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
jophil28
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A possible translation from "womanspeek" to intelligent English...Chunkydo said:
"A complicated girl ", means something like this , " I have no coherent strucure in my personality,I am merely a disjointed collection of needs, desires, wants and acts. I am blown around by the wind of immediacy and I like the freedom to do as I want, whenever I want. By the way, I am seeing my old B/f at the office again, behind your back."
"...I am doing this for both of us ".. means this , " I had a pang of guilt about dumping you so, to delude myself into feeling better, I am going to lie to you. I want you to believe that I care about YOUR feelings but really I do not. You were fun and useful for a while, but no longer. BTW, I am sleeping with my old B/f again ".
"In time you will see that I was right about my decisison"....means ..." I want you to get over this quickly and I do not want you to ever make me feel bad about how I dumped you. I could care less about the damage I just did to you. This is all about me and my feelings.
OH, did I mention that by B/f and I are back together ?"
^^^^right on. This has her gettin back with her ex written all over it. She always had feeling for this guy. Once he found out about you then he made her life hell. She surrendered and went back to him. Fvck her and the horse she rode in on.
ChumpNoMore
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^ Jophil's woman-ese to english translation, FTW.jophil28 said:
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Don't take it personally; you were the rebound guy. If she was truly ready to move on from her ex, she would've quit her job. If you get involved with a woman that is pining for her ex, you will lose no matter who you are.
As a side note, you spent entirely too much time with her. You need to leave a bit more to the imagination, especially early in a relationship, or a woman's interest in you will plummet. If you're willing to invest THAT much time in a single woman, it sends the message that you don't necessarily find yourself worthy of her. That letter she sent you is a typical "nice guy" letter--you were too available and accommodating too early.
The good news is that she's but one of many; there IS no "one that got away." The important part is that you recognize your mistakes so the same situation doesn't occur with the next one.
Best of luck
As a side note, you spent entirely too much time with her. You need to leave a bit more to the imagination, especially early in a relationship, or a woman's interest in you will plummet. If you're willing to invest THAT much time in a single woman, it sends the message that you don't necessarily find yourself worthy of her. That letter she sent you is a typical "nice guy" letter--you were too available and accommodating too early.
The good news is that she's but one of many; there IS no "one that got away." The important part is that you recognize your mistakes so the same situation doesn't occur with the next one.
Best of luck
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Even while we were arguing, We were still inseparable, spending every night together. When we werent together, we texted, emailed and called. We were workout partners working out every day, 6 days a week.
Hey, Chunkydo,
Every night together! Inseperable! We texted, emailed and called! We workout partners 6 days a week!
WTF!!!!!!!!!
You did not give her the gift of missing you. Simple as that mate.
Jeezuz, no wonder she had enough of you. Talk about suffocating each other.
Hey, Chunkydo,
Every night together! Inseperable! We texted, emailed and called! We workout partners 6 days a week!
WTF!!!!!!!!!
You did not give her the gift of missing you. Simple as that mate.
Jeezuz, no wonder she had enough of you. Talk about suffocating each other.
I know this is going to be hard to do but why beat yourself over this. It is over and she does not want you so F her and move on. From reading your post sounds like you did too much too soon.
1. Working out 6 days a week together
2. Text/email/talking all the time
3. Spending all this time together
She had you, you were always there, probally smothered her, and like someone above said you never gave her the gift of missing you. Her ex at work was probally a **** to her, not being nice and ignoring her whenever possiable. This drove her crazy, why does he not want her she wonders. You were too AFC brother.. No biggie time to re-evaluate and move on.. Best of luck
1. Working out 6 days a week together
2. Text/email/talking all the time
3. Spending all this time together
She had you, you were always there, probally smothered her, and like someone above said you never gave her the gift of missing you. Her ex at work was probally a **** to her, not being nice and ignoring her whenever possiable. This drove her crazy, why does he not want her she wonders. You were too AFC brother.. No biggie time to re-evaluate and move on.. Best of luck
jophil28
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*Girl gets dumped by bad azz who happens to employ her for a lot $$.
*Girl recruits a 'rebound guy' who does not understand that his sole job is to rebuild her ego and validate her market appeal. He thinks that she wants a new 'relationship' with him. SHe hooks him with hot sex .."I love you rebound guy".
*Girl tells rebound guy all about badazz and how she hates him. Girl says that she wants to quit job, but stays because of the money. Rebound guy believes her.
*Rebound guy believes all her victim statements and bends himself into a pretzel trying NOT to be like badazz. Rebound guy thinks that she really dislikes badazz because girl endlessly whines.
* Fast forward a few months and rebound guy starts to feel her pulling away.
Girl starts acting distant and soon dumps him with one of the myriad lies so beloved by women who breakup with a guy.
* Girl 'branchswings' back to badazz. Rebound guy is broken up and posts on SS.
* Experienced posters give advice, rebound guy ignores advice and waits in hope for her to call him.
And so it goes - over and over.
*Girl recruits a 'rebound guy' who does not understand that his sole job is to rebuild her ego and validate her market appeal. He thinks that she wants a new 'relationship' with him. SHe hooks him with hot sex .."I love you rebound guy".
*Girl tells rebound guy all about badazz and how she hates him. Girl says that she wants to quit job, but stays because of the money. Rebound guy believes her.
*Rebound guy believes all her victim statements and bends himself into a pretzel trying NOT to be like badazz. Rebound guy thinks that she really dislikes badazz because girl endlessly whines.
* Fast forward a few months and rebound guy starts to feel her pulling away.
Girl starts acting distant and soon dumps him with one of the myriad lies so beloved by women who breakup with a guy.
* Girl 'branchswings' back to badazz. Rebound guy is broken up and posts on SS.
* Experienced posters give advice, rebound guy ignores advice and waits in hope for her to call him.
And so it goes - over and over.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
Yep..horaholic said:
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
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jophil28 said:
lol so funny and true. OP you will laugh oneday but for now just accept it and focus on better times for yourself
Seems like jophil28 is right the OP is not interested in what we have to say.
Thaks for posting. Maybe the advice here will help or encourage others in the same situation
Nice link samspade and great womanspeek translation jo
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Thaks for posting. Maybe the advice here will help or encourage others in the same situation
Nice link samspade and great womanspeek translation jo
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