"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I was 1 for 4 today :(

Essa Rios

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Hey guys......

It was a beautiful day today here in Hollywood, CA. so i decided to get out of the house and try talking to random girls hoping to try get one to join me for a bite to eat. It was not my day as the 4 girls i approached
only one seemed into me.

First approach was at a bookstore, i saw a cute asian in the travel section and asked her if she has ever been to NYC as i was just there last month.
She just stares at me and starts to walk away. So i moved on.

Second was a latina chick by the magazines reading a gossip mag so i ask her opinion on Jessica Simpson and Tony Romo breaking up. She was just giving me one word answers to every question i would ask her so i just slowly walk away.

I leave the bookstore and head to a nearby park hoping to have better luck where lots of girls were walking their dogs. I walk up to this one latina chick and ask what kind of dog she has as "i'm in the market for a dog". She was cool and very talkative to all my questions i would ask her.
Then i mention if we could continue this conversation over lunch and it will be my treat. Said no, something about how she already ate and when i ask
for her number she said no again.

My last approach was this white girl outside a drug store smoking a cigarette
so i ask if i can bum a cigarette off her. I don't smoke but i just played along like i did. She was really cool and funny but way older than me. Very cute but not really my type. Did talk to her for about 15min and exchanged phone numbers but she is 10 years older then me so that won't fly.

There you have it. Thats how my day went, hope all you guys had much
better luck than me. And just in case you care, yes i did end up eating alone.







Last girl i tried talking to was
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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prairiedog24

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The coolest part of this is the fake smoking. That's funny. Props just for that.
 

Kal0051

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meh, you win some, you lose some. Just approach more, but don't turn into that guy who hits on EVERY girl (I know a guy like that and girls just think he's a joke).
 

cletus

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Even A-Rod goes 1-4. Shake it off. They'll be plenty more at bats.
 

Joe The Homophobe

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You're crying because you went 1-4 today? b|tch i been 1 in 25!

1 out of 4 is actually very good. You need to do lots more approaches per day 4 is not enough. It is the only way to learn.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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