"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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"I want you" Good idea?

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Hi! Please read this INTRIGING :p story
I was at this party last weekend and was playing one of the girls. She's like a "fine" girl, (does anything not to look as a slut) so we talked, she teased me and her pupils were dilated. We almost kissed but we were disturbed by the others... So I thought, I'll take it smooth and isolate and kiss her.

Apparently she got more and more drunk. She made out with another guy way under her leauge (she's 7/10 I'm 7/10 this guy was 5/10). I know this girl wants me so I'm gonna hang out with her.. But I don't have her # only Facebook and MSN.

So I was thinkin about sending her a message on FB pretty straight-forward:
"I want you.
Meet me at [landmark between our houses], friday 20.00"

Is this a good Idea?
I was also thinking about chatting and sending:
"Wow you got real drunk last weekend, you confused me with the [other guy 5/10]"

What do ya think DJs?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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sbgm said:
Hi! Please read this INTRIGING :p story
I was at this party last weekend and was playing one of the girls. She's like a "fine" girl, (does anything not to look as a slut) so we talked, she teased me and her pupils were dilated. We almost kissed but we were disturbed by the others... So I thought, I'll take it smooth and isolate and kiss her.

Apparently she got more and more drunk. She made out with another guy way under her leauge (she's 7/10 I'm 7/10 this guy was 5/10). I know this girl wants me so I'm gonna hang out with her.. But I don't have her # only Facebook and MSN.

So I was thinkin about sending her a message on FB pretty straight-forward:
"I want you.
Meet me at [landmark between our houses], friday 20.00"

Is this a good Idea?
I was also thinking about chatting and sending:
"Wow you got real drunk last weekend, you confused me with the [other guy 5/10]"

What do ya think DJs?

It can work. However, you HAVE to make sure your Facebook profile is CRISP and that you're sending the right vibe. Check out my feature for some quick tips to start out (check out the FIRST video clip):

http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/2009/12/17/online-dating-tips-for-men-women/

Keep in mind a few things. First off, she was drunk and secondly, she was "slutting" on another dude. She may not remember you and may have been in a totally different mindset. Some girls COMPLETELY change once they have some liq in their systems. Whatever you do, do not take a drunk, party-ho too seriously. In most cases, they are just attention *****s who are very "liberal" with giving up the goods. I think you have the right idea...just go for the homerun. Never invest too much time and energy into the party-skank,

Good luck.
 

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Sorry! Left out some info. I've known this girl for 4 years and she have been teasing me everytime we met... I had a crush on her 3 years ago and I have wanted to nail that a$$ since then, so she knows me...
 

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"I want you" will almost definitely not work.

"Wow you got real drunk last weekend, you confused me with the [other guy 5/10]"

That's even worse.

I suggest you ignore her for a bit, and then go for a kiss next time you see her at a party drunk.
 

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Seems like you CAN bang her. I don't know that "I want you" is the right approach. As s1utty as a girl may be, they don't want to be TREATED like one. If I were you, I'd skip the "I want you part" and go straight to the "Let's hang out. Meet me Friday at (landmark)."

"I want you" seems like it puts a lot of pressure on the girl. Even if she wants to hook up with you, maybe she doesn't want to plan an encounter ENTIRELY around a hookup. These situations work best when you tell the girl to meet you for a drink, a walk in the park, etc. That way it's more about having "innocent fun" and the hookup is the added bonus.

I've tried your move before, and it works sometimes. But it's a low-percentage play.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Okey I'll skip the "I want you" ... hehe. Maybe just write on my FBstatus that I'm goin out saturday...
 

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sbgm said:
Okey I'll skip the "I want you" ... hehe. Maybe just write on my FBstatus that I'm goin out saturday...
Wtf why not throw her some light humor and chat for a quick bit on FB then say "Oh hun I forgot to exchange numbers with you the other night, Here's mine XXXXX-XXXX"

I'm sure she'll be much obliged to give you hers. Then tell her I'll call you some time........

Wait a day or two hit her up....Joke around build up some rapport...Say you know what I'm in the mood to have some fun lets go out so and so day and set up an action date.....act sexy smooth escalate escalate escalate at least get a freakin' kiss or sumthing. leave her wanting more always.....

from the get go I always and always talk to women and refer to them as hun, sweetie...then later after I escalate subtly and make it obvious I'm a sexual man I start saying things like babe, baby and this just makes girls go goooogy gaga over you (well in my experience)

Also on your date don't forget to be very social not just with her but the whole entire world....I like to pretend everyone loves me no matter who it is and I interact with the masses be it a store clerk or server some where...I put myself in the now, joke and have a general good time with my date and strangers. As if I have no worries and am always out to have a GREAT time no matter what kind of turmoil I'm feeling mentally or problems I'm enduring personally.
 

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sbgm said:
But I don't have her # only Facebook and MSN.

So I was thinkin about sending her a message on FB pretty straight-forward:
"I want you.
Meet me at [landmark between our houses], friday 20.00"

Is this a good Idea?
No. Why are you making it so complicated and rolling the dice?

If she's interested, a message "what's your #"? will work fine and you can get the **** off of FB and MSN and stick with face-to-face.

If she's not interested, anything else you say isn't going to work anyway.

Complicated schemes in text are pretty much useless because you have no friggin idea of what state of mind she'll be in at the moment she reads your message. She could have a headache or just argued with a sibling or thousands of other things.

"What's your #?" can't set anything bad off, it's just a normal # request. No matter what state of mind she is in when she reads it. Plus, it leaves some mystery, she won't know (for sure) what you want to talk about and it'll raise her interest if she has any in the first place.
 

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As we say in sweden: Fett nice! Thanks

Should I get out this weekend to the local club, see if she's there and kiss her or just ask for the # and set up a date?
 

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sbgm said:
Hi! Please read this INTRIGING :p story
I was at this party last weekend and was playing one of the girls. She's like a "fine" girl, (does anything not to look as a slut) so we talked, she teased me and her pupils were dilated. We almost kissed but we were disturbed by the others... So I thought, I'll take it smooth and isolate and kiss her.

Apparently she got more and more drunk. She made out with another guy way under her leauge (she's 7/10 I'm 7/10 this guy was 5/10). I know this girl wants me so I'm gonna hang out with her.. But I don't have her # only Facebook and MSN.

So I was thinkin about sending her a message on FB pretty straight-forward:
"I want you.
Meet me at [landmark between our houses], friday 20.00"

Is this a good Idea?
I was also thinking about chatting and sending:
"Wow you got real drunk last weekend, you confused me with the [other guy 5/10]"

What do ya think DJs?
What is that 20.00 supposed to be, twenty dollars?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What is that 20.00 supposed to be, twenty dollars?
20:00 hours, or 8PM in military time. He's from Sweden, cut him some slack :p
 

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sbgm said:
Hi! Please read this INTRIGING :p story
I was at this party last weekend and was playing one of the girls. She's like a "fine" girl, (does anything not to look as a slut) so we talked, she teased me and her pupils were dilated. We almost kissed but we were disturbed by the others... So I thought, I'll take it smooth and isolate and kiss her.

Apparently she got more and more drunk. She made out with another guy way under her leauge (she's 7/10 I'm 7/10 this guy was 5/10).

LOL. Dude it's not for you to tell us you are 7/10, it's for others to you that.


I know this girl wants me so I'm gonna hang out with her.. But I don't have her # only Facebook and MSN.

So I was thinkin about sending her a message on FB pretty straight-forward:
"I want you.
Meet me at [landmark between our houses], friday 20.00"

Is this a good Idea?
I was also thinking about chatting and sending:
"Wow you got real drunk last weekend, you confused me with the [other guy 5/10]"

What do ya think DJs?
Oh man, you forgot to say "I only pay prostitutes in 20s, hope that's acceptable too." Could you make her feel anymore like a hooker?
 

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CarlitosWay said:
from the get go I always and always talk to women and refer to them as hun, sweetie...then later after I escalate subtly and make it obvious I'm a sexual man I start saying things like babe, baby and this just makes girls go goooogy gaga over you (well in my experience)

I also do it and they love it. However, I decided I was going to stop as it showed too much interest and gave them the feel of a boyfriend talking.

Then after reading your post I realized that's not the case, and I remembered how actions speak louder than words, so I will keep my words the same, but correct my actions and needy, beta-like behavior.

Thanks man!
 

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hahaha
I haven't cared to learn the pm/am system I always confuse the two...

But, ontopic: Should I ask her out or just wait to see if she shows up at the club this weekend? Isn't it weird to aks a girl out if she made out with another guy? although we almost made out hehe
 

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Done!
I got her number way
probably callin her tomorrow asking her out on an action date, sledge-riding and then hot chocolate at my house :p
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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