"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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"I want to take it slow"

R3N3G4D3

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So I started seeing this girl. Everything is fine, she feels comfortbale with me and my friends, when I start making out with her she keeps excited for hours, starts breathing heavily, everything. The only problem is, the cliched "I want to take it slow" when I try to have sex with her.

We've been seeing eachother for a few days now, but today was the first time I tried to take her shirt off of her, and she looked me in the eyes and shook her head in disagreement. So I'm thinking maybe she's not aroused enough yet, I continue making out with her, kiss her neck, stroke her hair, everything. Soon she starts breathing like she ran a mile, hugs me tighter, and starts kissing my neck in response. After half an hour more I ask her if she's sure she doesn't want to take it a step further, and she replies with "I'm sorry, but I just don't want to take it too fast". So after half an hour more of this make-out stuff I got bored, found an excuse to finish it and went to watch TV, she sat with me for a while then said that since it's already 3 in the morning she needs to go back to her place.

So my question is, when they say they don't want to rush it, how long do they have in mind? A week? 2 weeks? Cuz I'm definatelly not waiting for a year to get her into bed. And also, is this one of those things where the girl sees you as a potential provider and witholds sex on purpose, or is it actually that she's the type who wants to take it slow? And, while we're on the topic, you guys have any tips to speed it up?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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too suave

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the question you need to ask yourself is if you just want to have sex with the girl or something more. if a few days seems too long for you just move to another girl cause eventually you'll find one that puts out on the first date
 

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How long did she have in mind? Why the hell are you asking US? Ask HER! Learn to communicate :D It boggles my mind how much people around here overcomplicate things.

Her: This is too soon..
Me: Aww, so you're a nice little choir girl then, aren't you? Well, when's it not gonna be "too soon," holiness?
Her: Um... i dunno... a week?
Me: Aw, you're gonna take the time to let the priest go gently! That's sweet!
Her: Fvck you!! :D
Me: Hahah! Get your ass up, lets go eat! *smack ass*
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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