"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

I want to spend little/no money on dating, am I going to have limited options?

Thread starter Shootin4Dreams
Start date Sep 3, 2015

Shootin4Dreams

Banned

Sep 3, 2015

The side girl screwed me over even though she was trying to act like chivalry existed. This last girl I was with I didn't have to spend A DIME on her and she would make me dinner when I come over and let me borrow things and paid for half a ticket for a show. How can I frame this right where the woman will want to go out for drinks with me and see me and not expect money or get pissed?

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.