"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I want to smell good what are some good colognes
- Thread starter SC
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Persistant
Senior Don Juan
DJ de Florida
Master Don Juan
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DJ de Florida
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Just Do It!
1) Progress always involves risk: you can't steal second base and keep your foot on first.
2) Unless you try to do something beyond what you have already mastered, you will never grow.
3) You never really lose until you stop trying.
Persistant
Senior Don Juan
ilikemackin
Senior Don Juan
And there is a DJ file with like 30 colognes.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Take No Dirt
Master Don Juan
(according to The Cologne Guy at http://www.cologneguy.com)
Now I'm not too sure exactly how much weight to give to this list. After all The Cologne Guy is a freakin' GUY! But anyhow, here they are for your perusal.
Acqua di Gio', by Giorgio Armani
Boucheron, by Parfums Boucheron
CKbe, by Calvin Klein
DKMen, by Donna Karan
Dolce & Gabbana, by Dolce & Gabbana
Escape for Men, by Calvin Klein
Eternity for Men, by Calvin Klein
Herrera for Men, by Carolina Herrera
HUGO, by Hugo Boss
Joseph Abboud, by Joseph Abboud
L'EAU D'ISSEY, by Issey Miyake
Le Male, by Jean Paul Gaultier
Obsession for Men, by Calvin Klein
Polo, by Ralph Lauren
Polo Sport, by Ralph Lauren
Safari for Men, by Ralph Lauren
"tommy", by Tommy Hilfiger
Wings for Men, by Giorgio Beverly Hills
Zino, by Zino Davidoff
And his favorite, and the only one he gives 5 stars to:
Egoiste Platinum, by Chanel.
Shinji Ikari
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Nice name and nice fragrance. I wouldn't recommend their shower jel though. It'll be way too strong.
You may want to choose a cologne that has a matching deoderant, so the two smells don't clash, and for cryin' out loud, DON'T USE TOO MUCH!
Gipper
TheLadiesMan
Master Don Juan
Polo Sport.....
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Take No Dirt
Master Don Juan
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swisher_sweets
Don Juan
Sweet Swisher
Nightwing
Master Don Juan
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
AbsoluteFreakinChump
Master Don Juan
Bungo Pony
Master Don Juan
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I didn't care, cause she was just there - Patti Smith
CableLight
Master Don Juan
To school I'll break out the Hugo Boss which is a tid bit more, but smells daaaaamn good
On the date I'll flip it between Longitude and Latitude by Nautica, or Egoiste Platinum (Shanel). Both of those are killer, but also come at a killer price. The two together cost a lil over $100, but if ya get the ass then its worth the cash
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CableLight
- Hey, I dunno what my name means either
"Always remember those you love. Even in death, no one is ever truely gone as long as they are remembered."
AbsoluteFreakinChump
Master Don Juan
You're giving me a woody!
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.