I want to quit masturbating

[Nobeard]

No this is not a joke. I have known for sometime now that its been affecting me in a negative fashion. I do it daily sometimes twice. I feel tired and from what i googled on the internet i need to cut back. However, after a stressful day at work i just do it. Its like i lose self control. I have tried deleting all the porn off my computer, but its so easy to get it all back that really doesnt do anything. Even when ive been good for a couple of days i will wake up in the morning and before im completely aware of what im doing im already almost done.

So i dont know. Any feedback from you guys. I have had a girl before and i havent been to these forums recently, but i think i need to cut back. If i got a girl and did the real thing i would still have issues in my life because i think i need to store up some of the vital things i have been doing. I don't think that it originally impacted my life badly it started ok. Its just after time I don't think its healthy to do it daily for over a year...

Unfortunately i realize this fight is 100% self control. I am just looking for some ideas maybe to get my mind off of doing it often. I work out regularly and go to school and have a somewhat social life. I really think i just need a stress reliever to take its place.

Thanks guys. Im 100% real and this took a lot of courage to admit even to an anonymous forum

 

[WC2]

Masturbation isn't really a problem in itself; only when it keeps you from achieving your real goals.

Hell, my sex drive is out of control I used to masturbate even when I had constant sex from the GF.

But if your single and your form of getting your sexual energy out is always masturbation, it's unhealthy. It keeps you from achieving real goals you could be doing in place of this (working out, picking up women, planning a short term goal, etc).

The only way to stop is to pledge it to yourself. The way I used to think is if I don't masturbate for a few days, I'm going to be all that much hornier come the weekend when I can pull some real tail.

 

[Vypros]

Masturbation isn't your problem.

Porn is.

My suggestion for you is to cut out porn instead of cutting out masturbation (that's an EXTREMELY hard thing for a man to do).

Only spank it when you can do so without the use of porn.

This ought to cut you back a little bit.

 

[DonutMan]

Masturbation is not bad for you unless its your wasting lots of time doing it, or if you give up trying to be with a woman because of it. If you feel bad about it, try cutting back to once every three of four days. It's a myth that its unhealthy..at least physically. If you stay in and masturbate instead of going out, then yes It would be good to cut back.

 

[DonJuan11]

As mentioned, porn is the problem, it's a chemical addiction in your brain. Since porn protects the male ego and you don't have much sexual experience, its designed to keep you coming back for more and more. Its an easy, quick fix with no put downs, insults, or criticisms by the woman. She'll do whatever you want, however you want.

The only thing I can think to tell you is to go somewhere for 6 months where they don't have a computer, then you won't be able to watch any of it. You watch it and do it because its there and its convenient. If you're fighting the war in Iraq or struggling to feed your family, you won't have much time to think about it.

 

[CapedCrusader08]

I do/have had similar problems,which concerns me for many reasons. I know I need to cut back,but I am so used to it and the feeling of it,that I am starting to get worried that this has been a root cause of my lack of success(es). Hell,that is probably why I wasn't out trying when I was younger.

 

[cola]

Instead of quitiing set a schedule.. I.e if you don't get layed all week beat off sunday night and maybe one other random day sometimes if I don't beat off the extra sexual energy ges me high strung and I like my mood mellow

 

[Alle_Gory]

Any feedback from you guys.

There is a MASSIVE thread in the Archives about this. Read through it and you can post in it as well.

All the information you would ever be searching for on this topic is the thread.

But if your single and your form of getting your sexual energy out is always masturbation, it's unhealthy.

Yup. This is because the male energy is recharged by female energy. Masturbation releases pure male energy into nothingness.

Its a waste of time and good energy.

 

[MascaraSnake]

what they said...

Porn is fine if it's something you can take or leave. Masturbating is a healthy thing (it can actually be used to build up your sexual stamina) but if it's that much of an issue keep the fantasies to the chicks you see in RL and only go on the computer to check e-mail.

 

[Jitterbug]

I reckon there's a lot of money to be made from starting up Masturbators Anonymous.

 

[Nobeard]

I understand what you guys suggest however i have been on a couple of websites and these are symptoms that i have sort of self-diagnosed myself with. Mind you that if i cut back for a couple of days i see improvement in these areas even before i knew what exactly it was so i dont think its psychological.

* Pain (in the testicles, groin, or pelvis)

* Eye Floaters (or fussy vision)

* Lower Back Pain

* Chronic Fatigue

* Concentration, Memory Problems, and Absentmindedness

So since these are all very specific im starting to believe that i have them in a minor way that adds up. However, i dont have these symptoms

* Hair Loss (or thinning hair)

* Weak Erections

So i really do beleive that i need to cut back and get a good balance for myself. At the very least i should have more energy. Not watching porn is a good idea

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Everytime you feel like watching porn or beating your meat. Do something productive instead of blowing your load.

 

[bornyesterday]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=20053

Personally I think the symptoms you mention are correlations rather then effects of your masturbatory habits.
For example lower back pain means bad posture, usually as a result of too much sitting, which means you have an inactive and unhealthy lifestyle. Which usually leads to an unhappy sexlife and lots of spanking. Now thats a correlation. There is no direct cause and effect relationship.

You have to much time on your hands. Do stuff, get active, dont spend all your time behind the computer. The day will be over before you know it and you didnt even think about spanking.
I don't think there is a single easy answer to your problem though. It's a hard problem at your age.
Maybe you shouldnt look at it as a single problem, or maybe as a symptom of something else.

 

[Jon55]

No this is not a joke. I have known for sometime now that its been affecting me in a negative fashion. I do it daily sometimes twice. I feel tired and from what i googled on the internet i need to cut back. However, after a stressful day at work i just do it. Its like i lose self control. I have tried deleting all the porn off my computer, but its so easy to get it all back that really doesnt do anything. Even when ive been good for a couple of days i will wake up in the morning and before im completely aware of what im doing im already almost done.

So i dont know. Any feedback from you guys. I have had a girl before and i havent been to these forums recently, but i think i need to cut back. If i got a girl and did the real thing i would still have issues in my life because i think i need to store up some of the vital things i have been doing. I don't think that it originally impacted my life badly it started ok. Its just after time I don't think its healthy to do it daily for over a year...

Unfortunately i realize this fight is 100% self control. I am just looking for some ideas maybe to get my mind off of doing it often. I work out regularly and go to school and have a somewhat social life. I really think i just need a stress reliever to take its place.

Thanks guys. Im 100% real and this took a lot of courage to admit even to an anonymous forum

How old are you? Masturbation isn't a bad thing. Doing it 3 times a day is overkill. But doing it once in a while is totally normal. Just because you beat your meat doesn't make you some ultra AFC. It's all about moderation. As long as you aren't super addicted to it or it's somehow destroying your sex drive with girls, then stop beating yourself up over it.

And stop playing up that courage crap. You're still behind a username and none of us know who you are. Hell, you could make a new username and we wouldn't even know it.

 

[bornyesterday]

Came upon this link in the masthread, very good read.

http://www.reuniting.info/science/porn_addiction_withdrawal_symptoms

It hits on many important things. The addictive aspect. The neurochemical properties of addiction and habits. Withdrawal. About daily routines, habits and activities that make it easier or harder to resist. About our biological propensities vs. modern abundance of erotic and pornographic imagry that make use of (and abuses) our automatic and natural responses and desires. Social support, having a trusting and positive attitude to tackle your problem, exercises, with some helpful links and more.

 

[Wynston]

Hey man, I've cut it down starting this week as it happens havent done it since last Friday night.. Applause applause.. Thanks!!

What I have found is that I'm more active, more awake and generally more pro-active with people especially women, I think what I'm realising is that sexual energy is not just in the bedroom it's everything we do.. God I used to use the old shuffle to help me sleep!! Cos I'm not doin it now it is harder to sleep but I'll get used to it, but I definately feel more masculine when my balls are slightly fuller haha excuse the expression!!