"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I want to pay off my mortgage.

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I live in UK. I have an eight year mortgage. I'm coming to the end of my two year deal. I'm very nearly four years into mortgage. I have about 8,000 left to pay off. I want to pay it all off.
Will Santander allow me to pay it all off (don't see why they wouldn't allow me)?
What happens after I have payed all money off?

Thanks in advance.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Will Santander allow me to pay it all off (don't see why they wouldn't allow me)?
What happens after I have payed all money off?

Thanks in advance.
There is not Usually a prepayment prohibition or penalty on a standard mortgage.
When you pay it off they sign off as the only lien holder and you get full ownership documents.
 
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You should reinvest that 8000$ somewhere else.

The mortgage rate are too low, so you would actually lose money by paying off your mortgage

Let it die naturally, or use your returns on your 8000$ to accelerate paiements.

That 8000$ would be put to be use in an investment product
 

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if you pay it off, your house basically becomes a secured credit card. it's never a stupid idea to pay off a house because whatever you pay goes right b ack to you in possible loans if you needed the money. plus your outgoing monthly expenses will drop dramatically.
 

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also if you aren't married, it's prudent to buy your house if you can before you get married or even let her move in. so she can't get it in the eventual divorce lol. l
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You should reinvest that 8000$ somewhere else.

The mortgage rate are too low, so you would actually lose money by paying off your mortgage
Yeah, if you can get a better rate of return on an investment than what you have on your mortgage, you're actually coming out better if you invest the money.
 

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Yeah, if you can get a better rate of return on an investment than what you have on your mortgage, you're actually coming out better if you invest the money.
Yes, but then he doesn't have a free and clear valuable asset…
Credit rating will rise substantially if he pays it off.
 

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True enough. I guess the question is does he need one?
Do you need or want to completely own something vs having debt ? It varies per situation and we don't know his. He already stated he wants to pay it off.
 
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He already stated he wants to pay it off.
And he should do whatever he thinks best. I was just pointing out the option. Actually, Von brought it up, yell at him. :)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Pay it off for sure. Cash, in a BANK, can be stolen (cyber security these days is iffy). The ONLY person who can 'steal' your house is The Government (if you don't pay your taxes). If it comes to a situation where the Government becomes even more tyrannical than it already is and tries to Take your house by force just on a whim, then it's Civil War time anyway.
 

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Pay it off. Then use the extra money to invest. All of my properties are paid off. This leaves me with a lot of undesignated income.
 
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