"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I want to lose wight

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Right, so if you ate at 8:59pm it'd be okay? There's no magic time after which you shouldn't eat. Most people tend to cut carbs a few hours before bed if they want to lose weight but I doubt that's necessary for you just yet.

And yes, smaller, more frequent portions are better. Six small meals a day instead of three big ones are superior, since they keep your metabolism stoked and burning calories all day.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Part of the reason that small meals are better is than humans spent about ten times longer as hunter/gatherers than they have as farmers.
 

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dude... that one guy said he was 6' and 165 lbs??? What the hell??? That's like smaller than my right leg. He needs to eat... I swear. He thought he was overweight at 200?? Ridiculous!
 

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You are the ridiculous one. Everyone has a different frame.

If 165 is your right leg, then you are either one fat slob or one puffed-up roidhead freak.
 

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Originally posted by Bible_Belt
Part of the reason that small meals are better is than humans spent about ten times longer as hunter/gatherers than they have as farmers.
How does this make it better?

Be nice to semag now, the boy needs his protein and may very well eat you if you persist.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I am starting to see what you mean about keeping the metab going, because since I have started eating smaller portions, my digestion has gone a lot better. I used to eat until i was so full I couldnt move, cause that's how i was raised, and that is what was normal for me. Now i notice that if i eat one hamburger, or something, i can still move, but i am full for a bit. Then i snack on nuts, or an apple between then and the next meal and it makes me feel a lot better. I don't get sleepy after i eat, and i just feel overall better. Pretty cool stuff. And staying away from sugar has also made me feel a lot better. I am trying to wean off of caffine to cause that screws up my sleeping routine and i am tired all the time. Since doing that i have noticed i feel better when i get up in the morning and it's easier to sleep all night. This is just after a few days. So thanks, for the advice, and I will keep up with this and get in touch if i need more help and to let you guys know how things are working out for me.
 

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Okay, maybe you guys can help me here.

First off, at this time last year, I weighed 234 pounds, and at a height of 5'6, yes I know, that was dangerous as all hell. In the span of a year, with my new job, I've dropped down to 188 pounds. My job involves a lot of lifting heavy objects and a lot of walking around quickly, so I get a workout every day, although not a very intense one.

I've dropped from a size 44 belt to a size 40, which is already feeling too small, and my focus right now is to continue losing fat and start working on my abs. My legs and arms are doing pretty well for themselves. I eat a somewhat skimpy diet, but I don't skip meals, I have at least 3 a day. Usually there's a 6 to 7 hour period of time between my breakfast and my lunch due to my work, then 4 or 5 hours between then and my dinner. I'd estimate that my calorie intake every day is under 1000.

So there's my case, guys. I'm already looking and feeling a lot better, but I've gotten to the point where I probably need to make a concious effort at losing and gaining.

What do I do?
 

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At your current weight I'd say just eat more regularly, quality food, and your working enviroment should do the rest.

If you can manage it, a 30 minute walk before breakfast can help but will do nothing for you if you're on such a low-calorie diet.

Try to eat every 3 hours if at all possible, in that gap for work consider a liquid meal, like mixing a source of protein with a source of carbs and drinking that, hell if they don't let you have a lunch break just go to the toilet and drink it there.

If what you're currently doing is working then stick with it! No need to make any more conscious an effort if you're making progress. If you stop losing for an extended period, only then do you rethink your cardio/diet/workout.
 

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I've been holding at 188 for the last week, which is different than how it's been, but if it goes on any longer then yeah, I'll rethink it and try other things.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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