"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I want to improve at Night Game, what are the keys to success in it?

Deicide

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Hello, I've conquered most of my AA dealing with cold approaching women, but there is still more work to do. For some reason, Night Game(clubs and bars) isn't coming so easy for me as Day Game initially did(I'll admit, it took a good 3 months to get somewhere with that). I still cold approach in those environments, though I'm a lot more nervous and scared in those places than in Day Game situations. I'm trying to first get over my fear of going to those places(Going to a party and a bar in the past 2 weeks is an ok start.)

I have no friends or people to go to those places with, so I'm always going to bars and clubs by myself. And I know that I need to cold approach a mixed group first thing in order to get somewhere, though doing that is harder than all-female sets. I don't do bad on my cold approaches in the clubs or bars, but it's hard for me to get past a minute or two of conversation with those girls. They seem to take off or find someone else to talk to at some point. It's actually tough finding all-female sets around here, usually there's a guy or two chatting them up(that probably came with them). Also, how direct and sexual should I be? My game is typically indirect with teasing throughout, though sometimes it works for some girls, other times, I'm sure they think I'm a little weird doing it. Most of the girls there seem to be in the7,8,9 range in looks. I'm sure perceived social value plays a big part too.

What should I do to improve my Night Game to the point where I can start getting results?(Make-outs and f-closes!). What should I do about mixed-sets as well, like one guy and two girls or two guys and two girls for example?
I'm waiting on The Mystery Method to come in the mail for me, so that should give some solid information about all of this. Help is appreciated.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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There is an entire section devoted to clubs and bars in the dj bible.
 

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Tiguere said it, but here is a couple quick tips...

Clubs are easier than bars as clubs are already pre-sexual for you. All you gotta do is act on it. Don't be a creeper. Be a man of action and dance with a girl.

One of my favorite things to do at bars is to go up to a random group, and just start talking like I've known some of em for years. It makes things go so much smother. Once you've got them a little comfortable, find your target, and tell her that for the rest of the night, shes your girlfriend. They love that crap, because they know its fake, but it turns things sexual quickly.

But in all these situations, you have to ACT ACT ACT!! Don't hesitate. Do that first daring thing in your head that you would normally be scared to do. Once you get comfortable hopping in and out of sets, you'll see yourself being able to hit on girls like your walking... Easy.

Just don't be awkward. Girls can fill your hesitation and timidness right away. Have fun!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 

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Diaforetikos said:
Tiguere said it, but here is a couple quick tips...

Clubs are easier than bars as clubs are already pre-sexual for you. All you gotta do is act on it. Don't be a creeper. Be a man of action and dance with a girl.

One of my favorite things to do at bars is to go up to a random group, and just start talking like I've known some of em for years. It makes things go so much smother. Once you've got them a little comfortable, find your target, and tell her that for the rest of the night, shes your girlfriend. They love that crap, because they know its fake, but it turns things sexual quickly.

But in all these situations, you have to ACT ACT ACT!! Don't hesitate. Do that first daring thing in your head that you would normally be scared to do. Once you get comfortable hopping in and out of sets, you'll see yourself being able to hit on girls like your walking... Easy.

Just don't be awkward. Girls can fill your hesitation and timidness right away. Have fun!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks for the advice. I just read your thread on BEING SEXUAL and I am in your former situation now! I'm getting numbers from women through cold approaches, but I can't get past a first date with anyone. It's just hard for me to be sexual around women because my old AFC mind used to say "Women will think your crazy if you want sex", and that is a lie. haha So, I'm in the situation where I'm getting friendzoned without realizing it. I can use kino if I consciously think about it, though typically I don't use it in approaches. Also, at times, I have trouble delivering negs to hotter women for some reason, and the conversations end up being too friendly. I don't know why. I game better dependent on certain personalities, but i want to be able to game ALL personality types, so I have a lot of work to do.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Dude Dj Bible is getting out dated club scene varies from time to time referrals can be lazy advice guys....

1.Confidence
2.ConfiDence
3.DrinkS
4.Good Attitude
5. and Your S.A.C.K!!

Honestly go out there with no care in the world gets some drinks under your belt just to take the edge off and dance with every girl you possibly can that you find Remotely attractive...Be a man and have fun...people see that your having the time of your life they become attracted to you because they wanna know whats got you so happy and alive...out of nowhere you'll have girls coming up introducing themselves to you.....
:rolleyes:
it helps to have atleast one wingman with you...if not rambo completed his missions solo...well so can you
 

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the more fun your having the harder it is for a woman to reject you...they'll atleast have to admire you especially if they can tell no matter what they do to you....at the end you'll still be having more fun than she is...no matter how hot you think she is

They'll admire your confidence and secretly desire it...and thats where good seduction seperates the rosy palms from the pink taco....
 
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