"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I want to go on a date this weekend, but don't know how to ask..

BigOlePappy

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I'm talking to many girls who seems to have interest in me. I have decent social skills and have been working hard on my C+F techniques. So far so good, but now I need to actually impliment these things and go on dates. The problem is, how do I go about it? Should I just be like, "hey what are you doing this weekend? We should do something." that is more or less what I had planned, but it seems to simple..
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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BigOlePappy

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also, another problem is many of these girls live an hour away from me and I don't know of anything to do where they live (it's a farming community)
 

Centaurion

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Just a couple of points :

1) Don't schedual first dates on Fri/Sat nights. It could give the impression that you don't have a social life in the chicks mind. Sundays or a weekday work for me.

2) Don't be vague, be specific. Instead of "Wanna hang out?" be more like : "I'm heading out to XXX place on XXX time. Join me!"
 

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Thank for the advice! One problem, these girls all live in this small community college/ farming town where there is nothing to do. I live an hour away in memphis, and don't know if they will drive an hour away to hang out with somebody they don't know tht well.
 

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If you can get a girls interest level high enough, she'll be willing to drive at least half way to meet up with you. Is there anything between you and these girls, like a bar or restaurant?

I would not drive an hour to meet up with a girl I don't even know, that sounds a little desperate bro, unless you have very good rapport with them.

Try meeting girls in your area, it could save you allot of headaches.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

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