Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
BS in the ass!Last Man Standing said:Babnik, you make a thread a minute!
Wit is a genetically wired trait - no books can help!
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Doggystyle said:Why do you want more wit? So women/people will like you? Wanting people to like you wrong mind set!
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
That came out wrong, you should want people to like you to an extent, but going out your way to try and learn stuff say to make people to like you will have the adverse effect, like trying too hardRandallpink83 said:if we dont want woman to like us then what the hell are we all doing here?? This whole website is about exactly that.![]()
Everybody wants people to like them.. its human nature to want acceptance. The more important thing to really remember though, is if they DONT like you then fvck em anyhow. lol.
Agreed: Work with what you have to improve that. If you dont something, dont worry about it. If you are a footballer with fantastic pace and skill on the ball, then be a winger and not a centre back. Same goes here.synergy1 said:nothing is more pathetic than seeing someone trying to be something they are not. If you are witty, go with it, if not, don't try.
:crackup: I'm sorry, I haven't heard that one before. I'm just imagining it being said with an Eastern European accent, lol.Babnik said:BS in the ass!
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
What about someone who has nothing except for academic experience? Does that mean those with no personality or humour should quit while they are ahead? If that's true, then I suppose I am wasting time...CrunchyNut said:Agreed: Work with what you have to improve that. If you dont something, dont worry about it. If you are a footballer with fantastic pace and skill on the ball, then be a winger and not a centre back. Same goes here.
YEAH! And if you're not already a DJ, get out of the forum!!! :woo:synergy1 said:nothing is more pathetic than seeing someone trying to be something they are not. If you are witty, go with it, if not, don't try.
Babnik said:I want to be witter...but NOT insulting at all.
You want to be wittier without being insulting then you come up with that line?Babnik said:BS in the ass!
Babnik said:BS in the ass!
Yeah, I had to read his crass comment a few times and then I started laughing because I suddenly realized and understood why he wants toFrancisco d'Anconia said::crackup: I'm sorry, I haven't heard that one before. I'm just imagining it being said with an Eastern European accent, lol.
I know, I know...Last Man Standing said:..Yeah, I had to read his crass comment a few times and then I started laughing because I suddenly realized and understood why he wants to become wittier!![]()
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.