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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I Want To Be Popular,so I Can Be Invited To These Huge Party!!!!
- Thread starter dreamx
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
shydude
Master Don Juan
WHY when someoone like dreamx post something weird, the page goes about 6 pages long???
Billy_Badass
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Take a look around. Life may seem like a *****, but it ain't so bad. Your problem is you care too damn much about what people think of you (including people on this board). How do I know? You respond to every jab that someone takes at you! Thats how. I would imagine its no different for you at school. Someone gives you ****, you respond in anger and frustration. Stop worrying about what others think, and it will all get eaisier.
Let me tell you something kid... in life, you are dealt one hand of cards. Some people are lucky enough to get a royal flush, others may only have a full house, but true success is determined by what you do with the hand you have been dealt.
What does all this mean? It means quit complaining, and play your hand to the best of your ability, take your losses, and celebrate your successes. Get out there and do something with yourself.
Let me tell you something kid... in life, you are dealt one hand of cards. Some people are lucky enough to get a royal flush, others may only have a full house, but true success is determined by what you do with the hand you have been dealt.
What does all this mean? It means quit complaining, and play your hand to the best of your ability, take your losses, and celebrate your successes. Get out there and do something with yourself.
Damian
Senior Don Juan
DreamX, this will be the only piece of advice that I give you. Don't even reply. Make your decision and leave the forum. I don't want to see you here for at least two weeks because you're spending too much time just sitting on your ass.
Right now, you are being needy and desperate. The reason people don't like you is because of your negativity. It's okay to be negative sometimes, if you broke up with your girlfriend, or if your grandma just died, but at one point, people will stop being sympathetic, and will simply leave you behind. If you don't care about yourself, nobody else will do it for you.
As of now, you have two choices:
1. Sit at your computer, keep going to the comic book store, and continue to whine about your life. Keep your childlike short-term goals ("I want to go to a party?!") and continue being immature. Keep asking for advice but become indignant when people give you honest criticism. Keep waiting for somebody to give you all the right answers (and believe me, it won't happen), just so you can take the easy way out. Sit on your ass, don't do any work, and expect what you want to simply come to you. Be angry at the world for not simply handing you whatever you want when you should be angry at yourself.
2. Grow up. From what I've read of you, you have the social maturity of a ten-year-old. Stop waiting for somebody to give you the ultimate guide to life, and go out and do it on your own. Your think that being "popular" is just a set of objectives that you need to fill like one of your video games. HELL NO. You need to make a commitment and a constant effort to interact with people, to form relationships and to maintain your status. You keep sitting there waiting for somebody to give you the ONE tip that will suddenly make you 'popular' when nothing of the sort exists. Stop looking for the easy way out and actually DO something. There are resources that you can tap into, literature that you can read, but if you don't have your own intrinsic motivation to improve yourself, nobody can help you. You want something? Make a goal, figure out how to reach that goal, and WORK FOR IT.
Your situation is that simple. Two choices. Shut up, Pick one, and stick to it.
-Damian
Can somebody please just LOCK this thread now?
Right now, you are being needy and desperate. The reason people don't like you is because of your negativity. It's okay to be negative sometimes, if you broke up with your girlfriend, or if your grandma just died, but at one point, people will stop being sympathetic, and will simply leave you behind. If you don't care about yourself, nobody else will do it for you.
As of now, you have two choices:
1. Sit at your computer, keep going to the comic book store, and continue to whine about your life. Keep your childlike short-term goals ("I want to go to a party?!") and continue being immature. Keep asking for advice but become indignant when people give you honest criticism. Keep waiting for somebody to give you all the right answers (and believe me, it won't happen), just so you can take the easy way out. Sit on your ass, don't do any work, and expect what you want to simply come to you. Be angry at the world for not simply handing you whatever you want when you should be angry at yourself.
2. Grow up. From what I've read of you, you have the social maturity of a ten-year-old. Stop waiting for somebody to give you the ultimate guide to life, and go out and do it on your own. Your think that being "popular" is just a set of objectives that you need to fill like one of your video games. HELL NO. You need to make a commitment and a constant effort to interact with people, to form relationships and to maintain your status. You keep sitting there waiting for somebody to give you the ONE tip that will suddenly make you 'popular' when nothing of the sort exists. Stop looking for the easy way out and actually DO something. There are resources that you can tap into, literature that you can read, but if you don't have your own intrinsic motivation to improve yourself, nobody can help you. You want something? Make a goal, figure out how to reach that goal, and WORK FOR IT.
Your situation is that simple. Two choices. Shut up, Pick one, and stick to it.
-Damian
Can somebody please just LOCK this thread now?
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
BBX
Master Don Juan
I had a long conversation with dreamx and I understand his situiation and after the aim conversation he told me that he said hi to a hot girl, so he's not sitting on his ass and he just might be moving along. The school he goes to is just not the correct environment for him...its a ghetto ass school so the marryjawanna and the teachers at the party makes sense. Hes a good kid that likes white girls and after a few links to hot girls myspaces in my school, the kid felt better. He's actually not a troll
Mr_rogers
Senior Don Juan
I have respect for your patience. I totally lost it on the kid after awhile. You must be VERY tolerant. Respect man, respect.BBX said:
Quit complaining
You already know what steps to take just do it. The reason why people are ticked off is because you keep asking for advice and blowing off what people say, and don't try. First step I would take is to admit you are the problem, not the other people. Also show people you are trying like proving you actually did something. Like saying what you actually did, and being specific on detail.
You already know what steps to take just do it. The reason why people are ticked off is because you keep asking for advice and blowing off what people say, and don't try. First step I would take is to admit you are the problem, not the other people. Also show people you are trying like proving you actually did something. Like saying what you actually did, and being specific on detail.
Mr_rogers
Senior Don Juan
Good to hear. Just make sure that you keep your progress going. Sorry if I was a bit of an ass, I need to learn to have more patience.dreamx said:BBX understands me,and I'm not always on these forum or on the computer sitting around,I haven't been on here for 4 or 5 days.But I would like to thank you guys,I'm improving alittle bit,because today was an excellent day
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.