[email protected] is my msn, don't spam me or get annoying and i'll help you out dog.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I Want To Be Popular,so I Can Be Invited To These Huge Party!!!!
- Thread starter dreamx
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
shydude
Master Don Juan
WHY when someoone like dreamx post something weird, the page goes about 6 pages long???
Billy_Badass
Don Juan
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Take a look around. Life may seem like a *****, but it ain't so bad. Your problem is you care too damn much about what people think of you (including people on this board). How do I know? You respond to every jab that someone takes at you! Thats how. I would imagine its no different for you at school. Someone gives you ****, you respond in anger and frustration. Stop worrying about what others think, and it will all get eaisier.
Let me tell you something kid... in life, you are dealt one hand of cards. Some people are lucky enough to get a royal flush, others may only have a full house, but true success is determined by what you do with the hand you have been dealt.
What does all this mean? It means quit complaining, and play your hand to the best of your ability, take your losses, and celebrate your successes. Get out there and do something with yourself.
Let me tell you something kid... in life, you are dealt one hand of cards. Some people are lucky enough to get a royal flush, others may only have a full house, but true success is determined by what you do with the hand you have been dealt.
What does all this mean? It means quit complaining, and play your hand to the best of your ability, take your losses, and celebrate your successes. Get out there and do something with yourself.
Damian
Senior Don Juan
DreamX, this will be the only piece of advice that I give you. Don't even reply. Make your decision and leave the forum. I don't want to see you here for at least two weeks because you're spending too much time just sitting on your ass.
Right now, you are being needy and desperate. The reason people don't like you is because of your negativity. It's okay to be negative sometimes, if you broke up with your girlfriend, or if your grandma just died, but at one point, people will stop being sympathetic, and will simply leave you behind. If you don't care about yourself, nobody else will do it for you.
As of now, you have two choices:
1. Sit at your computer, keep going to the comic book store, and continue to whine about your life. Keep your childlike short-term goals ("I want to go to a party?!") and continue being immature. Keep asking for advice but become indignant when people give you honest criticism. Keep waiting for somebody to give you all the right answers (and believe me, it won't happen), just so you can take the easy way out. Sit on your ass, don't do any work, and expect what you want to simply come to you. Be angry at the world for not simply handing you whatever you want when you should be angry at yourself.
2. Grow up. From what I've read of you, you have the social maturity of a ten-year-old. Stop waiting for somebody to give you the ultimate guide to life, and go out and do it on your own. Your think that being "popular" is just a set of objectives that you need to fill like one of your video games. HELL NO. You need to make a commitment and a constant effort to interact with people, to form relationships and to maintain your status. You keep sitting there waiting for somebody to give you the ONE tip that will suddenly make you 'popular' when nothing of the sort exists. Stop looking for the easy way out and actually DO something. There are resources that you can tap into, literature that you can read, but if you don't have your own intrinsic motivation to improve yourself, nobody can help you. You want something? Make a goal, figure out how to reach that goal, and WORK FOR IT.
Your situation is that simple. Two choices. Shut up, Pick one, and stick to it.
-Damian
Can somebody please just LOCK this thread now?
Right now, you are being needy and desperate. The reason people don't like you is because of your negativity. It's okay to be negative sometimes, if you broke up with your girlfriend, or if your grandma just died, but at one point, people will stop being sympathetic, and will simply leave you behind. If you don't care about yourself, nobody else will do it for you.
As of now, you have two choices:
1. Sit at your computer, keep going to the comic book store, and continue to whine about your life. Keep your childlike short-term goals ("I want to go to a party?!") and continue being immature. Keep asking for advice but become indignant when people give you honest criticism. Keep waiting for somebody to give you all the right answers (and believe me, it won't happen), just so you can take the easy way out. Sit on your ass, don't do any work, and expect what you want to simply come to you. Be angry at the world for not simply handing you whatever you want when you should be angry at yourself.
2. Grow up. From what I've read of you, you have the social maturity of a ten-year-old. Stop waiting for somebody to give you the ultimate guide to life, and go out and do it on your own. Your think that being "popular" is just a set of objectives that you need to fill like one of your video games. HELL NO. You need to make a commitment and a constant effort to interact with people, to form relationships and to maintain your status. You keep sitting there waiting for somebody to give you the ONE tip that will suddenly make you 'popular' when nothing of the sort exists. Stop looking for the easy way out and actually DO something. There are resources that you can tap into, literature that you can read, but if you don't have your own intrinsic motivation to improve yourself, nobody can help you. You want something? Make a goal, figure out how to reach that goal, and WORK FOR IT.
Your situation is that simple. Two choices. Shut up, Pick one, and stick to it.
-Damian
Can somebody please just LOCK this thread now?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
BBX
Master Don Juan
I had a long conversation with dreamx and I understand his situiation and after the aim conversation he told me that he said hi to a hot girl, so he's not sitting on his ass and he just might be moving along. The school he goes to is just not the correct environment for him...its a ghetto ass school so the marryjawanna and the teachers at the party makes sense. Hes a good kid that likes white girls and after a few links to hot girls myspaces in my school, the kid felt better. He's actually not a troll
Mr_rogers
Senior Don Juan
I have respect for your patience. I totally lost it on the kid after awhile. You must be VERY tolerant. Respect man, respect.BBX said:
Quit complaining
You already know what steps to take just do it. The reason why people are ticked off is because you keep asking for advice and blowing off what people say, and don't try. First step I would take is to admit you are the problem, not the other people. Also show people you are trying like proving you actually did something. Like saying what you actually did, and being specific on detail.
You already know what steps to take just do it. The reason why people are ticked off is because you keep asking for advice and blowing off what people say, and don't try. First step I would take is to admit you are the problem, not the other people. Also show people you are trying like proving you actually did something. Like saying what you actually did, and being specific on detail.
Mr_rogers
Senior Don Juan
Good to hear. Just make sure that you keep your progress going. Sorry if I was a bit of an ass, I need to learn to have more patience.dreamx said:BBX understands me,and I'm not always on these forum or on the computer sitting around,I haven't been on here for 4 or 5 days.But I would like to thank you guys,I'm improving alittle bit,because today was an excellent day
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.