[email protected] is my msn, don't spam me or get annoying and i'll help you out dog.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I Want To Be Popular,so I Can Be Invited To These Huge Party!!!!
- Thread starter dreamx
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
shydude
Master Don Juan
WHY when someoone like dreamx post something weird, the page goes about 6 pages long???
Billy_Badass
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Take a look around. Life may seem like a *****, but it ain't so bad. Your problem is you care too damn much about what people think of you (including people on this board). How do I know? You respond to every jab that someone takes at you! Thats how. I would imagine its no different for you at school. Someone gives you ****, you respond in anger and frustration. Stop worrying about what others think, and it will all get eaisier.
Let me tell you something kid... in life, you are dealt one hand of cards. Some people are lucky enough to get a royal flush, others may only have a full house, but true success is determined by what you do with the hand you have been dealt.
What does all this mean? It means quit complaining, and play your hand to the best of your ability, take your losses, and celebrate your successes. Get out there and do something with yourself.
Let me tell you something kid... in life, you are dealt one hand of cards. Some people are lucky enough to get a royal flush, others may only have a full house, but true success is determined by what you do with the hand you have been dealt.
What does all this mean? It means quit complaining, and play your hand to the best of your ability, take your losses, and celebrate your successes. Get out there and do something with yourself.
Damian
Senior Don Juan
DreamX, this will be the only piece of advice that I give you. Don't even reply. Make your decision and leave the forum. I don't want to see you here for at least two weeks because you're spending too much time just sitting on your ass.
Right now, you are being needy and desperate. The reason people don't like you is because of your negativity. It's okay to be negative sometimes, if you broke up with your girlfriend, or if your grandma just died, but at one point, people will stop being sympathetic, and will simply leave you behind. If you don't care about yourself, nobody else will do it for you.
As of now, you have two choices:
1. Sit at your computer, keep going to the comic book store, and continue to whine about your life. Keep your childlike short-term goals ("I want to go to a party?!") and continue being immature. Keep asking for advice but become indignant when people give you honest criticism. Keep waiting for somebody to give you all the right answers (and believe me, it won't happen), just so you can take the easy way out. Sit on your ass, don't do any work, and expect what you want to simply come to you. Be angry at the world for not simply handing you whatever you want when you should be angry at yourself.
2. Grow up. From what I've read of you, you have the social maturity of a ten-year-old. Stop waiting for somebody to give you the ultimate guide to life, and go out and do it on your own. Your think that being "popular" is just a set of objectives that you need to fill like one of your video games. HELL NO. You need to make a commitment and a constant effort to interact with people, to form relationships and to maintain your status. You keep sitting there waiting for somebody to give you the ONE tip that will suddenly make you 'popular' when nothing of the sort exists. Stop looking for the easy way out and actually DO something. There are resources that you can tap into, literature that you can read, but if you don't have your own intrinsic motivation to improve yourself, nobody can help you. You want something? Make a goal, figure out how to reach that goal, and WORK FOR IT.
Your situation is that simple. Two choices. Shut up, Pick one, and stick to it.
-Damian
Can somebody please just LOCK this thread now?
Right now, you are being needy and desperate. The reason people don't like you is because of your negativity. It's okay to be negative sometimes, if you broke up with your girlfriend, or if your grandma just died, but at one point, people will stop being sympathetic, and will simply leave you behind. If you don't care about yourself, nobody else will do it for you.
As of now, you have two choices:
1. Sit at your computer, keep going to the comic book store, and continue to whine about your life. Keep your childlike short-term goals ("I want to go to a party?!") and continue being immature. Keep asking for advice but become indignant when people give you honest criticism. Keep waiting for somebody to give you all the right answers (and believe me, it won't happen), just so you can take the easy way out. Sit on your ass, don't do any work, and expect what you want to simply come to you. Be angry at the world for not simply handing you whatever you want when you should be angry at yourself.
2. Grow up. From what I've read of you, you have the social maturity of a ten-year-old. Stop waiting for somebody to give you the ultimate guide to life, and go out and do it on your own. Your think that being "popular" is just a set of objectives that you need to fill like one of your video games. HELL NO. You need to make a commitment and a constant effort to interact with people, to form relationships and to maintain your status. You keep sitting there waiting for somebody to give you the ONE tip that will suddenly make you 'popular' when nothing of the sort exists. Stop looking for the easy way out and actually DO something. There are resources that you can tap into, literature that you can read, but if you don't have your own intrinsic motivation to improve yourself, nobody can help you. You want something? Make a goal, figure out how to reach that goal, and WORK FOR IT.
Your situation is that simple. Two choices. Shut up, Pick one, and stick to it.
-Damian
Can somebody please just LOCK this thread now?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
BBX
Master Don Juan
I had a long conversation with dreamx and I understand his situiation and after the aim conversation he told me that he said hi to a hot girl, so he's not sitting on his ass and he just might be moving along. The school he goes to is just not the correct environment for him...its a ghetto ass school so the marryjawanna and the teachers at the party makes sense. Hes a good kid that likes white girls and after a few links to hot girls myspaces in my school, the kid felt better. He's actually not a troll
Mr_rogers
Senior Don Juan
I have respect for your patience. I totally lost it on the kid after awhile. You must be VERY tolerant. Respect man, respect.BBX said:
Quit complaining
You already know what steps to take just do it. The reason why people are ticked off is because you keep asking for advice and blowing off what people say, and don't try. First step I would take is to admit you are the problem, not the other people. Also show people you are trying like proving you actually did something. Like saying what you actually did, and being specific on detail.
You already know what steps to take just do it. The reason why people are ticked off is because you keep asking for advice and blowing off what people say, and don't try. First step I would take is to admit you are the problem, not the other people. Also show people you are trying like proving you actually did something. Like saying what you actually did, and being specific on detail.
Mr_rogers
Senior Don Juan
Good to hear. Just make sure that you keep your progress going. Sorry if I was a bit of an ass, I need to learn to have more patience.dreamx said:BBX understands me,and I'm not always on these forum or on the computer sitting around,I haven't been on here for 4 or 5 days.But I would like to thank you guys,I'm improving alittle bit,because today was an excellent day
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.